Joyful Loving is for you if you wish to invest in relating happily & enhancing your freedom.
being in an Ongoing circle that serves the highest potential of your humanity. Realise the joy & wonder of being in this profound enquiry into relating, man-woman polarity & your sensual naturalness. With support from committed fellow travellers, move beyond resistance, stories & concepts of yourself, others & sexual connection, & embody the limitless potency, love & space you are. Feel deeply, explore, communicate, find pleasure, with ‘the other’ & with Life. Find the fullness of you as you relate, respond, receive.
The quickest, surest way for you to heal into wholeness
Relating shows you exactly where you limit life. Go deep, then light, with Joy Hicklin-Bailey. Joy’s approach is radical, it goes direct to the root, to essential nature-this is the core beyond story, thought & feeling, this energetic transmission invites you to return to over & over again. All problems dissolve then. It’s easy to get lost in everyday challenges but research repeatedly shows that loving relationships are the absolute key to a life well lived. If you know this & have found out that your good intentions & trying are not enough, then Joyful Loving is for you.
Love is always a risk. It brings loss. Problems come from the fear-based, illusory separate self. Through its challenges, love initiates us into largeness. Discover how to co-operate with this evolutionary opportunity built into relationship. You will open where you have been stuck, un-nourished or fearful & in embracing the one solution, find joy.
Better relationships with others begin with a better relationship with ourselves & with life, otherwise we are continually unconsciously projecting our own wounds outside & getting a clear reflection of our unsorted problems – in relationships that do not fulfil our hearts desire! Avoid serious mistakes that can sabotage your life & which most almost inevitably suffer from. Listening to life with Joy’s expert guidance & safe holding allows you to move beyond patterns into beingness, which brings you freshness, clarity & love. This is for both singles & couples who want more emotional & physical intimacy with future partners or their current partner & greater freedom in being.
Would you like your relating life, whatever your lifestyle, to be one of consciousness, tenderness, passion, pleasure, beauty & freedom?
Do you wish the healing power of truth, depth & presence to replace ambivalence, compromise & disappointment? This group is for you!
Enjoy happy relating & conscious lovemaking. Heart-opening vulnerable relating is the gateway. Boundlessness is, always, anyway. This enquiry which catalyses the natural evolutionary unfolding built into your physical & energetic body. The ultimate expression is inner marriage – dissolution of all opposites into beingness, unity consciousness. To whatever degree it is realised, that deepens friendship & harmony between you & your lovers, partners, spouses, children, parents & friends, & all you meet. You will more deeply embody the love that is, at the core of all existence.
Come live an expanded celebration of your humanity, the unique gifts of being you, the man or woman you are, with the stories you have lived & the life you are wishing to co-create.
amazing how you present the most esoteric information & approaches simply & in a grounded way. Sex & Love will never be the same again for me ~ John Hitchin, Chichester
a huge thank you again .. beautiful.. so much learning. .. I feel blessed & empowered ~ Sabina Rademacher, Embercombe, now Portugal
An ability to facilitate & hold a sacred space for areas of intimate relating & deep personal development that is rarely, if ever, offered elsewhere. Loved the feeling of safety & being held by the circle; the sense of wholeness felt by relating in a way, & with a depth, that is rarely possible in the usual course of living. A deep feeling of mutual trust, & the formation of close bonds within the circle. Offering the encouragement to step outside normal boundaries, thus facilitating change that might not otherwise have happened ~ Graham V., Bath
WHAT IS IT?
…your rich immersion into self-love, & love of life’s simple, ordinary miraculousness. An invitation to embrace everything you meet & have ever met in your relating, & find the joy in it. A glorious adventure. Real, simple, natural enquiry. This is a world-class, leading edge, six module experiential training in living your wholly integrated beingness & its fundamental archetypal energies, & exploring how you do you in your meetings with others. A dismantling of false veils of trance, apparent separation & old myths you no longer need.
Enjoy a fusion of beauty, intimacy, innocence, realness, healing, love, enquiry, sensuality, authentic, nourishing community, depth, nature, & celebration of Life, as it is.
WHAT DO YOU GAIN?
You get the right support, high quality reflection, dialogue, inspiration & deep explorations in committed community, to integrate body & soul. You learn to live so every hurt, every shadow, stuckness, judgement, fear, disappointment, loss, grief, fully received, brings you gifts as it dissolves.
Your relating life become more real, honest & supportive of who you naturally are. You grow clarity about your own & others’ true needs & vulnerability in your communication. Loneliness cracks open. Victimhood becomes empowerment. Patterns of being betrayer or betrayed are untangled & dissolve.
You transmute your past conditioning about love, gender & sexuality into simple naturalness.
IS THIS FOR YOU?
If you are called to real transformation of your every day relating & you want to go ‘further’ than most can ever lead you, if you’re wondering whether to grab this rare, unique opportunity, see if these possibilities resonate….
Your life is already great, yet you sense there is more aliveness for you as a single man or woman, or between you as a couple.
You wish to attract the ‘other’ who is ‘right’ for you
You lose your own truths & energetic integrity in relating
You wish to be free of the fear of abandonment which leads to muddy compromise or inability to commit
really appreciated the depth of connection & warmth…I have not experienced, not heard of work that covers such a unique combination of territory, so rooted in the body & yet so connected to spirit. And holding & allowing that space for people to see & work through their triggers & patterns – wonderful. beautiful, nourishing & enlightening. Since then, whilst I have been gathering the insights into the map in my psyche, how it impacts on my behaviour & relating, I have felt calmer, more grounded, more centred, more sensitive & open. More enjoyment of life in all its different, & sometimes difficult, colours ~ H., Stroud
mulitple o’s… (never happened before) my ability to let go & experience the sensation-al ….made me feel fully alive, totally open (& vulnerable) & connected me to my open heart. Absolutely wonderful, truly transformational. Thank God for all I’ve learnt with Secret Garden & Joyful Loving especially ~ Susan C., Lancs
Thank you both so much for that which is priceless, absolutely priceless Gold! ~Ashley Roberts, nr Bristol.
Joy’s words hit that fine sharp chord of truth, yet are full of love – a bit like a thousand butterfly wings beating upon you all at the same time. You think it’s going to hurt, but it doesn’t. I love that about Joy! 🙂 I participate with Joy for my own unravelling, rebuilding & development, & because I want to make a difference outside of me, in the world ~ Dawn Rising, Chichester
…What will you experience?
24 days ongoing training in six 4-day retreats gives you the depth, accountability & committment so that deeply realised insights, openings to all aspects of your being, of relating to ‘other’, of your sexual energy & of life. Profound healing, transformation, & integrated awakenings happen. Your waking up is dramatically accelerated when beingness is repeatedly activated by being with one who has realised liberation. Expanded consciousness can stabilise so you remain open & free always – even in the midst of unpleasant or challenging circumstances & in a world of increasing heartbreak & polarity. To be awake is to be sexually alive, whether you choose to express that or not. This is why it is essence-ial to explore your own holdbacks, attractions, repulsions & natural desires so you can realise total self-love while you inhabit this body you are in.
You will learn true, heart-felt, effective communication, the power of vulnerable honesty, transparency, friendship with ‘the other’. You will learn deeply to enjoy your desire for intimate contact, in all its moods, to receive deep pleasure & love, to know & honour your choices or boundaries in any situation. You will learn all you need to truly make Love, in your lovemaking. Your own awakening is the gift of every struggle you ever thought you had in relating – you will learn the hows.
On the way, you will explore the archetypal foundations of your unique being, & your masculine & feminine energy. You tune in deeply to male & female energy in nature. There will be life changing alchemical initiations in some modules. These initiations catalyse the priming of mental, emotional & physical awakening, & also celebrate your unique being as man or woman. They are gateways to freedom, intimacy & naturalness.
You are guided surely through profound shamanic ritual, ceremony, the most powerful meditations, guided structures, shadow work, transpersonal & depth psychology – leading edge evolutionary work for awakened man & woman. You learn how to harness the breath to cultivate life force, & transmute raw sexual energy with consciousness & love into potent emotional & physical healing through the energetic circuitry of the body. You experience meditations in which the raw is transmuted & heart is ignited. In this life-affirming, profoundly rejuvenating work, there will be a constant transmission of the awakeness you are already, though the separate, conditioned self, suffering & longing appear real. Compassionate holding & world-class facilitation bring revelation of sabotaging patterns & trances, & deep opening in love to all aspects of your own being, & to others. You discover the limitless potential you are. Creative possibilities, powerful intentionality & actions for ‘your’ life, aligned with life’s intelligence, can emerge naturally.
Sharing and touch
There will be sitting in silence, explorations in nature, spontaneous happenings, feedback structures, clarifying & energizing of your small & large intentions for living love.
There will be intimate sharing in occasional gentle touch or massage or gentle tantric structures (your boundaries always clarified, & then communicated, first). You learn about esoteric energetic secrets – the art of loving must be learned, & is very rarely taught. Share verbally in pairs & small groups, to explore, mark & acknowledge, so that there is a deeper & deeper acceptance & love for the life that flows in you & the choices you make. More insights & openings happen the more you realise a willingness to embrace what is, now.
Every circumstance, every feeling, the natural rhythms of expansion & contraction, in life, becomes the perfect invitation to reclaim soul & heart & take you deeper, more alive. It is only when your whole being opens to sensation-al life, to natural eros, that the intimacy of not knowing – the presence of absence – arises & ‘you’ can fully receive the deep mysteries of waking up to the love beyond self. Revelation of the boundless intelligence of Life itself, the jewel of being, may occur.
The Power of Circles
The circle provides the safety in which extraordinary personal breakthroughs & undreamed of freedom as you relate becomes possible. The transmission of freedom that Joy is empowers realisations beyond the small, conditioned personal self, because there is no agenda. The ‘approach’ is dynamic & responsive; the exact content is determined according to the needs & energy of the group in the moment.
Open sharing in our large circle also opens your heart to the vulnerable humanity of self & others, & shows you what is in the way of that heart opening, catalysing a healing into deepening trust, confidence & sensitivity. The mystery of mirrors & the alchemical energetics of the present bring opportunity that simply isn’t possible in any other situation.
In the deeper Essence circle work, which may include dream work, ancestral (family lineage) healing, deep forgiveness work (self & others), you can, if you desire, release fixed attitudes & beliefs, for you & – if you are a parent – so your limits are not passed to your children. Your body, your feelings, your energy & your nature as man or woman is gradually freed of being run by the rejecting judgements, wounds, anxieties, assumptions & dilemmas you may have accumulated from your culture, parents, peers, partners & life’s challenges.
Being together in the circle, we open to the mystery, beyond the mind’s ability to comprehend, of all that happens among us, to life’s intelligence, that creates the deep insights & wondrous awakenings to the truth of who you really are.
Men’s and Women’s Circles
Men and women, you will spend some precious time separately with your own gender circle, sharing, & exploring gender-specific themes best explored in this safe space, which is so affirming of your manhood or your womanhood. The ideal of unisex dissolves & a new honesty & gender equality grows. Men are affirmed in their radical brotherhood into ever-growing power, heart & authority. Women in radical sisterhood find voice for their depth & sensitivity. Hurts & resentments are welcome too & compromises are seen for what they are. The conditioning is released that has kept the lid on the fullness of masculinity and femininity. In increased openness to this, openness to ‘other’ grows. Power struggle dissolves as each gender releases knots around control & being controlled. A drawing into the essence of gender can happen in shared initiations. Men & women can come to truly affirm their opposite gender so that both genders embody empowered masculine & feminine.
This circle supports conscious relating for couples if you choose to participate together & are committed to deepening your connection. Couples can be together in all structures, or whenever they choose. You will be facilitated through those obstacles, stories & limits which can habitually, often unwittingly, thwart your highest potential for self-realisation, mutual shared happiness & physical delight in your own being & with your partner. You learn how to clarify your shared boundaries, communicate & commit to them, & sometimes change them in line with shared truth.
Old survival patterns can lead to pain & difficulty in relationship, & sabotage intimacy. In this short video, Joy talks about some challenges for couples, & for all men & women. Challenges dissolve when you know how to fully embrace inner experience as your own, communicate in a real, vulnerable way, enhance energy, dive into presence & create infinite pleasure.
Re-kindle trust & intimacy. Re-awaken shared passion & aliveness. Melt into stillness & silence.
There will also be time to let go & relax, space to enjoy community & friendship, good food & music, celebrations, nature, dancing, & the hot tub and enjoy the beautiful venues & countryside. There will be lots of humour & laughter!
A powerful ongoing circle is gathering already, in which deep nourishment & spiritual support can be found & where the beauty & power of your nature is mirrored back to you over & over again.
Give yourself the rare gift – a group gathering, ongoing, with the intention of their own & others’ freedom…Book now – places strictly limited.
Unconditional love in its highest expression, I never saw anything like it in my entire life…. This is too good to keep it secret. This work takes me completely out of my comfort zone. I embrace the fear & find my courage to continue…..more patience & understanding …I’m not trying to control (my husband) & that’s very impressive for me…I’m proud of myself! Joy has an incredible capacity to communicate, ask the right question or make the right suggestion to unravel what has been hidden. I accept myself more & feel empowered. My relationship with my husband has improved tremendously, as has that with my daughter. I feel happier & more fulfilled. The changes are sustainable. They last ~ Susana Jimenez Montalvo, Leicestershire
truly brilliant, almost too mindbogglingly simple to be believed! the best work I have come across. And Joy is the best communicator ever! …Clearly I can’t stop now…. living my life with that sort of sparkle and pleasure is something I did not imagine was possible… was beginning to doubt. And then this ~ Philip Batchelor, Stroud
Awesome…How good it feels to communicate innocently. Becoming aware of my own wounding so it didn’t need to run/ruin my life ….Learning to speak up. Learning to say no. This work invites your fundamental core beliefs, projections, judgements and woundings into the light. Extraordinary facilitation will help you release trauma, receive the gold buried in your shadow and celebrate you, just as you are. To be received and loved when you cannot even bear to look at yourself is profoundly healing. If you are in any way attracted to this, just do it. Joy’s extraordinary facilitation and the innate intelligence of this potent work will carry your gentle being even when you feel you do not have the capacity to put one foot in front of the other ~ Jemma Brett, Scotland
I’m honoured you’re considering joining me for the Joyful Loving Ongoing group. If that which cannot be spoken of, beyond the confusion of your conceptual mind, if diving deep into being, is something you value highly & wish to give some time and energy to, I invite you to take your place in this very special circle for a profound & tender shared journey over 18 months. Human love is a theme which touch us all. I have known the pain of loss & divorce, & the power of opening, anyway. Relating continues to be the most important aspect of being human for Joy in the unfolding story – bringing so many gifts, riches & pleasures. I love to share what ‘I’ have learned, too. This training will, wherever you are in your relating life & awakening journey, bring you increased clarity, fluidity & happiness.
When I first began my own awakening ‘journey’, I was just 7 years old. I never could have imagined where that & many more magnificent explosions into wonder would take me. In the final waking up phase of this story, I had the extraordinary privilege of receiving from two free beings & being apprenticed for 10 years to one of them. Pioneering work in the realm of consciousness & ancient wisdoms, while transmitting unconditional wholeness, has been a passion ever since. Sharing this Secret Garden, which is radical because it points direct to the root, to essence-ial nature – the core beyond story, thought & feeling, with anyone who is called to receive it – is an endless gift.
Some will not take this opportunity – these explorations are counter to every assumption of mainstream culture & the status quo of the mind – & will miss the joy, love & freedom beyond the personal that Is…Such is life! Yet it is clear; the evolutionary imperative for waking up out of the self-absorbed shell of the personality has never been so urgent; it is no longer a work for the few who leave the world to live in a monastery in the company of a spiritual master.
Sustainability on this planet must first arise from the individual’s surrender of self-ishness & re-learning of what is natural. For most, the re-activation of awakeness needs to occur repeatedly over several years, likely decades, to achieve stabilisation. Once fear & resistance are put aside, it becomes the ONE thing above all others in Life. This is the only sure foundation for cultural paradigms to change enough to make a real difference.
Since I began sharing these realisations with fellow lovers of truth & Life, I have been humbled & inspired to encounter generous human beings, so deeply dedicated to their own awakening.
This ongoing group is offered to you in case you have the courage, the inspiration, the love & care to be able to let go of your personality preferences and open to being, the vast nothing & everything. There can be a subtle & refined embodiment of essence, through which we humans are lived as the extraordinariness of the ordinary, the vulnerability that is our greatness, the mystery where nothing is known or certain, & yet life is infinitely creative and rich. This is the only trustworthy foundation for conscious relating, & lovemaking, which heals & enlightens your body & being.
As dismantling happens, you can receive the uplifting, deeply nourishing company & awesome power of our community of men and women – yoga instructors, business owners, caregivers, artists, healers, lovers, teachers, writers, mums, dads, explorers of life’s truths – & its gifts of authenticity, deep trust, accountability, presence, intimacy, support & transparency.
The course content is all – new & cutting edge, so this group is highly appropriate for anyone who has attended ongoing groups – the core of Secret Garden’s offering – before (the depth of awakeness just gets better & deeper) & for those drawn for the first time. It gives you the spine of spiritual community to support ongoing spiralling into conscious awake relating. The ongoing circle is beautiful, full of healing, love, truth, intimacy & celebration of the one life we have been given to enjoy. Creating this new course has been a tremendous labour of love, & will continue to be throughout its unfolding. I’m excited that I’ll soon be sharing this life-changing work with committed people – I hope, for you, that you choose to be part of it.
It is richly rewarding to be with those where the level of shared trust is so deep that the breakthroughs & openings can be far reaching, and a privilege to see what happens for people on a ground way beyond where they can go with most social & professional contacts, when they are willing to trust the intelligence of the depths, without agenda. Being with those who come to prioritise the integral unity of body & spirit, who respect the circle’s profoundly healing call for balance between individual needs & journeys unfolding, who love the surrender to male & female aliveness, love nature, clarity, the rhythms of simple pleasure, lots of belly laughter, deep exploration, silence, stillness, is – simply – joy.
If you decide to join me on this adventure, I so look forward to sharing this deep immersion with you. Join us & experience the repeated re-activation that you need to live a life of spiralling freedom, joy & illumination
With endless Love,
This group will fill fast so book now. We aim to give you exceptional gifts now & also profound results which last for your lifetime. This is a wonderful present for your loved one or yourself! (you receive couple/friend discounts)
If you join this circle now, you can just catch the early booking discount & 4 bonuses
How will you Benefit?
Beingness is every-thing and no-thing….from deeper realisation of this, Joyful Loving becomes possible
Joy is an awakener. Liberation and being cannot be ‘taught’. A powerful, sustained transmission of freedom is received in this Circle & between modules, no matter what appears to be happening, so ‘you’ can take your embodied realisation of awakeness to a whole new level.
The contraction & separation of the separate self can lose its tight grip, on a cellular level. Let go into love, the essence of life, the oneness, its wonder & beauty, can be simply ever apparent. An opening to the vastness of being, beyond & in all appearance, can be yours.
So the Joyful Loving Training is about everything – there is literally no aspect of your conscious & unconscious spiritual, intellectual, emotional or physical life that it cannot affect, since Being underpins all. Having said this, the emphasis is very much on enhancing all aspects of your relating & sensual life. The gains & benefits below are all possible for you.
- If you take your place in this Joyful Loving ongoing group you will realise a profound affirmation & expanded celebration of your human nature, your sensuality & sexuality. You grow consciousness, compassion, integrity, strength. Enjoy tenderness, playfulness & joy.
Transform Your Intimate Relationships
- Experience the healing potential of a conscious alchemical dance between man & woman outside of you, & the blossoming marriage of masculine & feminine inside of you. Freefall into the embodied truth of the oneness beyond these polarities
- In the men’s & women’s circles, create a deep friendship with your own gender & be nourished by their support & celebration of the man you are, the woman you are
- See your partner or the ‘other’ with new eyes in every interaction. Know their innocence.
- Suffering & conflict in relating with all others, & between inner masculine & feminine, is replaced by mutual respect, harmony & joy
- Acknowledge & enjoy your desire for connection & conscious touch. Live your energy with care, stay true to what is, at your deepest
- Find fluidity of emotional flow in all you feel, nurture energetic sensitivity & aliveness you have never experienced before, discover power, innocence, & your authentic voice, so your body, feelings & being are an instrument for life to play
- With increased sensuality, depth of feeling & open hearted acceptance of how life touches you now, you are more available for those you partner, befriend, parent or offer service to
- You learn effective communication, the free-ing power of vulnerable honesty & expressing your heart’s truth without blame or reactivity.
- You receive another’s truth of the moment, without assuming it is criticism. You let go of making another responsible for your fears, commitment phobia or self-judgements.
- Learn profoundly opening sexual healing, & sensual massage
- Realise deeply the freedom & consciousness to say & mean no or yes. Learn evolutionary partnership.
- See your limiting patterns, such as withdrawal, self-sacrifice, numbness, rescuing, control clearly – & find creative ways to return to relating with unconditionality
- Realise on a cellular level that sexual energy & spirit are one
- Realise your own pool of joy & true happiness & love in being you. Humour & lightness increases
- Be confident in your capacity to give love & pleasure to the ‘other’
Relate without losing you
- Gain clarity & care about who you are & what you need & choose in relation to others. Stay with your own simple beingness while staying open & available to other, seeing & befriending all that gets in the way of that. Embrace the risks of intimacy.
- See through & dissolve blindspots & unhelpful habitual behaviours—and love others in their own wounds & blind spots
- Grow a capacity to stay centred when your wounds are triggered, learn how to respectfully navigate unmet needs & conflict, & disentangle the far past from the present in your relating
- Reclaim energy that has been leaking out & increase charisma
- Realise deeply the freedom & consciousness to say no when you mean no, & yes when you mean yes, with love & to make, keep & renegotiate clear agreements that nourish all involved
- Move towards unconditional friendship with all the colours of aliveness in the circle, in self & with ‘the other’, find or re-discover your natural capacity to give & receive love, without agenda
- Awaken to limitless, unconditional Heart consciousness. It has no agenda. No demand. It is endlessly fulfilled. Human beings know they can live this way with each other – here is a rare opportunity to find the edges & resistances, & love anyway. Oceanic surrender to what is
- Wake up to beauty, connection & love; everyday life, alone or shared, becomes ecstatic.
- You will move back into ordinary life awake, grounded, nourished & reconnected with soul.
Release Your Limiting Patterns
- See yours clearly & release them. Neediness, withdrawal, & punishment dissolve. Self-sacrifice, numbness, narcissism & rescuing dissipate. Find creative ways back to ease, happiness, unconditionality
- Judgements are replaced by gratitude, pride becomes humility; guilt is transformed into inspiration & possibility; fear becomes excitement; impatience becomes kindly allowing; ugliness or disgust becomes grace, wounds become resources; struggle & depression is a wake up call; longing is replaced by presence; cynicism & cruelty become care & respect; denial becomes honesty; repression transmutes into power; alienation becomes connection; frustration becomes playfulness; projection becomes compassion; control melts into heart opening
- Shadow energy, fully owned & embraced, is transmuted into harm-less life force.
- Understand & integrate the recognisable stages of change that are happening in your own being human, as you burn through any confusion about spiritual life & awakenings happen. Access bliss, freedom & love usually considered to be available only to Eastern mystics.
Developing skills for the art of living you
- Strengthen the character qualities of humility, generosity, & patience that make life ‘work’. Crucially, this work does not increase or reinforce the ego’s sense of identity, pride & control which is a major problem with the ‘spiritual marketplace’ & new age healings & teachings. To live your true nature as being, a letting go of limits & dismantling of conditioned illusion is necessary, rather than a building up. It is counter intuitive that it is this that allows the river of life to flow clean, healthy & abundant.
- You restore organic connection with your nature, child spirit & heart. Joy & Love inspires your actions
- You have a sense of response-ability for your life, a clear overview of your life as a whole now, the clean instinctual gifts of each phase of life, a knowing of life’s preciousness & en-joy-ment of your nature as man or woman, authentically expressing.
- You will notice real, measurable benefits in all of the areas that matter to you, such as health, family, conscious parenting, creativity, work, social skills, inner ease & above all in your relating life & embodied spiritual realisation.
- Find out how to avoid the big mistakes that, like most, you can make with your feeling life & sexual energy that cause unseen, chronic harm to your health, your relationships & even your finances
- Because this training affects your whole energy field, you will empower your natural gifts & gain a massive boost in creativity or in motivation & success at work. Your financial abundance, professional service & contribution will improve. Responsibilities become fuel for your awakening. Mysteriously, you will find you become more & more effective in being whoever you choose in life
- If you are a professional who is already working as a therapist, teacher, healer, or seminar leader, or if you are starting to look for your avenue of contribution, this training deepens your offering to those you serve, clarifies your purpose, potential & gifts. You will learn much about holding a strong clear safe space for transformation. It supports would-be practitioners of this extraordinary work.
Healing your past
- Find support for, mark & celebrate a transition in your life. Create harmonious balance in a life of purpose & belonging. Experience deep surrender to circumstances, people & places, to what is.
- Profound healing of parental & ancestral wounding so you can be comfortable in your own skin & so your current relating is free of past limits & wounds. Stories you have lived of ‘not good enough’, recent life sorrows, losses & frustrations that might be part of your being human, & the life you are wishing to co-create now, are embraced with gratitude. Self-love expands.
- You learn that it is safe & healing – & creates more love – to be willing to feel uncomfortable. as you hold up to the light what has been locked out of sight.
- Discover how to co-operate with the enormous potential for healing, rejuvenation & evolutionary opportunity, built into the intelligence of the subtle energy body & the chakras
- Deep revitalisation comes. You rediscover the magic, the aliveness, the delight of your being
Live in your body
- Transmute daily stress into life force, resilience & vitality.
- Enjoy your primal animal aliveness, power & sensual pleasure. Reclaim the life force which is your birthright – let it be rocket fuel for finer energies of expanded consciousness
- Love making becomes fully conscious, & light-filled
- Discover full-bodied orgasm, to transmute for spiritual practice. This promotes good health, & awakens fluid flow in the chakra energetics, which is your evolutionary template to grow natural, intelligent awakeness.
- Enhance pleasure & promote emotional & physical healing through the body through the secret arts of conscious touch & being touched. Learn how to conserve & build energy & relax & surrender in states of high arousal
Live beyond separation and time
- In opening to the mystery of full human beingness, the not knowing of presence arises. Profound intuitive wisdom emerges. Beyond your personality limitations is the freedom & love that is & always has been, beyond the small you
- Separation dissolves & profound healing of limited perspectives & hurts happens; you can touch the deepest mysteries of existence, beyond life’s normal boundaries. A spirit of dynamic enquiry becomes natural.
- Release resistances, stories & hurts. Presence replaces separation patterns, longings & striving.
- You learn you are not a problem to solve, you have no problems, that the past is only as real as you demand it to be. You do not have to be run by your wounding & that Love heals the past, unwanted emotional responses, ‘issues’ & problems, so you get less entangled in new ones that arise.
Seize the day – give yourself world class facilitation here now book your place here before it’s gone
This group is right for you if…
If you value love, truth, silent awareness that embraces all, freedom, the beauty of what is simple & natural, intimate connection, the joy in being…if you value the rare accountability, vibrancy, depth & tenderness of authentic, awake, committed community – this group is for you Book Your Place Now
If you love to live your wild soul, be broken open by another’s vulnerability, play, to say what you may never have dared, enjoy good company, love to be surprised, to find your edge, to celebrate being you.
If you are living less than the full passion & aliveness that you could be because of the roles you play, the routines, conventions & habits that restrict, if you spend too much time lost in your head and in virtual realities, save your one precious life!
Secret Garden is at the leading edge of our evolving humanity, for you if you are wishing for nourishment, for connection, for your power. Maybe you choose tender space to heal your heart, for support in transition or to enquire about a question about life, relating or spiritual awakening.
If you long…
- To grow your heart big enough, beyond mind, to love all that is in others, yourself & life
- To be able to tell truths to your partner & hear theirs, without drama or games
- You intuit that relationships are perfectly designed to take you deeper in life, towards freedom.
- Beingness is what really matters to you & wish for powerful transmission to dismantle what is in the way of that in the dance of relating
- You sense the potency of awakened masculine & feminine, its creative, dynamic aliveness, beauty, purpose, passion & joy
- You love, & sometimes long for more, truth, love & presence in relating
- You wish to be with others in freedom, joy, pleasure & the ease of ‘You are me’
- You are enquiring into the core questions of being human
- You wish to never stop learning & expanding into what is simple, ordinary & natural
- You wish for deeply satisfying sexual & sensual relating that open you beyond mere desire for gratification in the moment
- You have had glimpses beyond the veil of the joy & wonder & long to fully embody beingness
- For connection with others to be simple, direct & real
- To explore subtle energetics & work with your sexual energy to empower your self-realisation
- You feel really nervous, resistant & afraid of (yet drawn to) doing this course
If you are struggling at times…
- You feel disconnected, know you could communicate more effectively – with friends, your partner or family – & miss the inspiration you used to have or that you long to have
- Your relationship with your own body is less than kind or you feel unattractive sometimes
- Your past family or love relationships have left you feeling burned or disappointed. You feel a need to protect your heart & are slow to trust
- Have you spent your life so far trying to work out what not to do through your mistakes & maybe heartbreaking losses? Or have you compromised, or even given up or hardened yourself?
- You are quick to judge others & also yourself
- You feel emotionally blocked, stuck, or inadequate or play small in fear of others’ judgements
- You regret past choices or actions
- You’ve never felt really fulfilled & long for more pleasure & joy in life
- You know you resist life’s inevitable intensity & weigh yourself down trying not to rock the boat. You intend to live co-empowerment but sometimes feel the tangles of co-dependency
- You know you are not the body, your feelings, your own ‘map of the world’, yet don’t know how to break through the isolation & fear that is inevitable for the separate self
- You sense fear, or old shame or guilt or old patterns hold you back from taking action & wish for freedom of choice instead
- You feel your capacity for sexual or sensual pleasure is held in more than you wish
- You long to break through the isolation, judgement & fear that is inevitable for the separate self & live the deep intelligence of the heart.
If you are single or in relationship
- You are single & drawn to world-class transformational work
- You are single & never seem to attract the right man or woman
- You are with a partner & plan to attend together to enhance your individual & shared happiness
- You & your partner are not sure whether to break up or move closer
- You are in a committed partnership & wish to be in your own transformational space a while
- You wish you & your partner to make love with exquisite consciousness
It doesn’t matter whether you’ve completed many trainings or whether you are just getting started in Secret Garden– you’ll learn how to take your embodied realisation of freedom & your life skills & wisdom deeper….. & live who you are even more effectively & on a grander scale!
Participants of past ongoing groups have experienced openings, healings, breakthroughs they had no idea were possible & had never touched in other spiritual, tantric & transformational groups.
How Joyful is your loving day by day?
….the loving of you, of your opposite, of life itself in its simple, ordinary miraculousness?
- How free are you of limiting projections about others?
- How clearly do you communicate your needs, boundaries, feelings, what is of value to you?
- How present & alive are you in your body?
- How fully do you love & live the strong, clear, purposeful man you are or the radiant, powerful woman you are?
- How freely does your life force flow?
- Is your relating empowered & juicy?
- Do you live all of you or do you live from the waist or neck up?
- Are you ready to live awakened intimacy?Is this all-new group for you?
- How open, vulnerable, not knowing & tender are you able to be?
- How clearly do you communicate your needs, what is of value to you?
- How present & vibrant are you in your body?
- Have you touched the essence of who you are & wish to live that in all ways?
- How fully do you live the strong, clear, purposeful man you are or the radiant, powerful woman you are?
- Are you in friendship with your energy in all its colours? How freely does your life force flow?
Ask yourself honestly – were you taught the fundamentals of love & male-female energetics as you grew up?
If you ask, ‘Could love or life be any better for me?’ & answer ‘Yes!‘, then join this ongoing group now, as places must remain limited for this life-changing opportunity. Late entry is not possible.
Your own waking up to the everything & nothing of life’s wholeness is the gift of every limit to love, struggle or unmet longing you ever thought you had in your relating life – this group invites you to discover how you discover & embody this. Are you ready, are you willing, to embrace all that is in life & love?
What if you come to embody the realisation that all you long for, all you seek in life & others, is yours already?
All you have to know about yourself is that you are willing to keep being here for the entire journey, that you are willing to be total about opening & befriending all that you are.
An extraordinary adventure in self-realization. Life & love becomes a natural unfolding & ideology about how it should be falls away.
If you’re wondering whether or not to grab this rare, world-class, opportunity, and any of this resonates, trust the soul call – book your place here
Your profound work…how it allows & brings conscious light to areas of my relating I have struggled with for so many years, has and IS changing my life for the better! ❤️ ❤️ ~ Melanie Howard-Dobson, Painswick
I love the Joyful Loving meetings. It is such a safe place to state your wants & needs, & to say no, without any judgement. You can be adventurous in many ways. It’s unconditional ~ Anthony, Bucks
liberating, transforming, rejuvenating, beautiful & revelatory for me. …. so relevant & transformative on many levels in your everyday life and in your perception of your experience & existence….Words can’t do it! I hope that you feel the gratitude, amazement and love I feel for you ~ Susan S., London
Life’s Great Gift
The natural reality beyond the mind is not of past or future, there is only unconditional freedom, always. Yet, to live embodied natural beingness, there must be a willingness to see the lies, the false identity that has driven ‘your’ life. How do you betray your nature? Trickiness loses its hold when clearly seen in an illumined field. The accountability & care of circle helps you come to love the one who wants to evade & escape this. You receive love you as clear seeing of what is ready to die comes. This is how ‘you’ take full responsibility for your life & learn to celebrate. As you live lighter the subtle direct experience of life’s empty fullness is enabled. This enriches every moment of relating.
The purpose of every step of this journey is to open you beyond the needy personality which sabotages your life – sometimes through surprise or new-ness in structures – into boundless heart-and-soul intelligence, the consciousness of presence to all of life happening endlessly now. Join us on this journey of dismantling separate selfhood through heightening consciousness, then of unification, liberation into being.
Heal into Wholeness
Healing is yours, in full allowing of pain. Redemption is yours in for giving those who have hurt you. This being is the miracle. We must all birth into dualism & go through a period of conditioning into apparently limited, less than fully fulfilled humanity, to a greater or lesser degree. All experiences in later life that you might consider traumatic are always, also, a re-stimulation of earlier traumas, with parents &/or others. Unless you resolve these early events you cannot truly heal your current relationship life. In this training, you can access unconscious material from the past in a safely held way to enable deep healing work, around male & female, being nurtured, experiencing bodily pleasure, & more. Any unfinished business & apparent obstacle arising out of this can be resolved so you may live free of any limiting effects & enjoy a rich maturation appropriate to your current life phase & chosen relating life. Transmute the lead of your conditioning into the gold of simple naturalness.
Deeper than the personality are archetypal energies – masculine & feminine energies, animus, anima, king, queen, lover, warrior, magician, & more. These must be clearly recognised, since when there is sabotaging unconscious identification with them, or denial, they distort natural balance, vital life force & relating happiness. This journey will vividly facilitate this crucial Jungian work.
The Body and Inner Marriage
Sensitivity to sensation-al life is invited Deep appreciation of the miracle of the body grows, & along with that cleaner instincts & heightened intuition – neither of these can thrive when the mind is in charge. Kundalini – the surging life force which brings limits to the surface of awareness safely so they can be cleared – ignites in this powerful group field & develops in your body. You learn to conscious co-operate with this evolutionary momentum & build the skills & committment you need to keep your life aligned with it at all times. True creativity is unleashed. Your body tunes into male-female polarity in all nature. The contrasting energies in you, others & life are a delight, not a problem. Ultimately, the inner marriage of masculine & feminine is possible.
Deepen connection. If you are like most men & women, then you both crave & fear emotional & physical intimacy. There is so much more power in union, true making of love through the physical, conscious community & synthesis, than in individuality. Grow your transparency in heart truth, learn how loving ‘the other’ is a vital key to self-love. Share nourishing enlivenment in conscious touch if true to your boundaries. Acknowledge & fully embrace both your aloneness and your need to belong, and both your desire to receive love & the freedom of giving it.
Vulnerable, undefended being allows the possibility of direct experience of what is. The simple, easily missed or forgotten secret!
What if every single thought or feeling or experience or story were simply an invitation to love? Beyond judgement, opinion or resistance….what if there can be a choice whether to accept that invitation or not..a conscious no or yes…until there is no choice, & love is all, all is love.
Our Western culture’s emphasis on independent individualism often leads to a forgetting or rejection of the fact that mastery exists, that transmission is the surest way to waking up, & that you have the potential to be forever positively influenced by another human being. Joy’s deep pleasure is to work with those who truly value ‘the ordinary mystic’s work’ of awakening, integration & embodied realisation.
‘There is only wholly unconditional Love….Under what is, every thought, every feeling, every circumstance, however challenging, there is Love. Is – ness is Love – no-thing, everything – unfolding’ Joy Hicklin-Bailey
You won’t find such profound & real exploration into your human nature, & tender pointing to that which is beyond words, anywhere else.
What You Say
You see beyond the usual games, tricks, manipulations, patterns. You recognise the full scope of human challenges…You are my mentor, I trust you. You help me notice what is holding me back…Issues dissolve. There is always value, even if it isn’t the anticipated. You model aliveness, being, authenticity & natural ease. You are the best! ~ Katie B., Stroud
I have spent years now working with Joy, Secret Garden, Circles, (my wife & child), family and friends, knowing that I could perhaps move towards freedom by removing the outer layers I have created. Through this experience, I have finally seen my arrogance in judging that I might know anything about another when I don’t know the first thing about myself. This has felt so freeing, I now observe how I move in & out of well established patterns with an ever thinner disguise on. I used to say that this circle work saved my life but I now see it is my life. If there is more to do then I’m willing to do it. I want to live as true & in flow with life as I can & I feel that joining the circle is where I dread & what I love ~ Scott, Bristol
After 25 years of searching, I had given up thinking this taste of truth was possible. Even though aspects of my story go on, it makes me laugh now! ~ Suzanne Bond, Bristol
You are a gorgeously juicy couple & your willingness to risk all to share your love & joy with us is profoundly inspiring. I’m living more of who I am…on my knees full of gratitude & love to you both. Challenging myself to be fully a man in the presence of a true woman ~ Robert Taylor, Australia
As so often before you know how to say right kind & loving words. You are so real & human…I love your woman’s warm wisdom. You have a gift to make the other, me, to feel heard, that is a blessing. I ‘feel’ that you know what I try to share & where my words might fail you read with your heart. You have healing, reassuring & calming influence on me. Perfect balance of rigour & gentleness -seriously good but don’t take life seriously! I feel you have much going on & you still gave me time, your soft feminine warm heart that you are ~ Heidi Ovarassi, London
I feel that I have gained so much through you and Secret Garden work. I am eternally grateful for what you have shared with us; it is incredible to see where I was and where I am now. I will definitely continue on this journey and build on the wonderful learnings ~ Tom Lowery, Stroud
Working with Joy has been very useful & rewarding for me, especially to reclaim myself as a sexual woman, to have permission to explore asking for what I would like & how to do that, to gain a much clearer understanding of the biological, energetic& psychological differences between men & women, all in safely held (though sometimes personally challenging) situations. Intimacy is a main focus of the work; it is never about performance but about presence, integrity, truth & honouring (self, especially). ..I have learned a lot of practical information & skills ~ Carole Clements, Bristol-on-Avon
deeply moved by these days. Since, as soon as I feel hurt I say to myself ‘let go of the fight, surrender, stop fighting, love the pain’. I’ve had 15 years of working with my Kundalini & I now realise I’ve been very male about it & forgotten the female. Thank you too, to Tim whose contribution I greatly appreciated, I feel as a man he brought a lot to the group & I’m grateful to him ~ David, Stroud
Secret Garden work is essential in my life as an ongoing thing…such quality I haven’t found anywhere else….You are so, so vigilant about constantly taking away from us our goals & ideals of becoming perfect or good & therefore deserving & loveable person we long to be (& already are!). I realised that I don’t expect perfection from myself anymore & therefore not from others, so now I don’t get disappointed or offended easily so I also don’t feel ‘tangled up in others’ in that exhausting way ~ Surahbhi McMellahn, Ashburton
Unconditional love & integrity, consciously held in authentic community. ..it is beyond words ~ Alaistair Howard-Dobson, Painswick
Precious jewels…I was smiling at the magnificence of it all, delivered in such a humble, ordinary way! ~ Rachel Irvine-Fortescue, Minchinhampton
Joy reads between the lines to get to the root of what limits me ..I am more confident, embodied, comfortable in my own skin. Joy has great love, truth & integrity. I will keep coming back because there is no one else out there like her…unique….in working with her I design & build a life I could never have believed possible~ Kim Rossi, Notts
The info you share & explorations you facilitate so skilfully is GOLD DUST to a man who desires to be authentic, grounded and present with life, women and men. This is cutting-edge ~ Steve, I of Man
Joy’s tenderness and presence helps you to explore your vulnerability with love & benefit from relief (of) resistance & pain &…dismantling illusions. Joy helps me find & face the truth, be more real. She can see what is behind the ‘problem’, helps me to welcome it, fully accept what is, let go & be freedom. This is huge for me-I used to resist it all ~ Alicia Ortiz, Andorra
Joy’s ability to help individuals & couples understand what real love & happiness is, is beyond expression. Her warmth, love, patience, courage & passion has forever imprinted itself on my relationship with myself & with others. If I could afford to double her fees, I would do that in a second. She is definitely the first person on my wedding list! ~ Fiona Campbell-Jackson, Bristol
If you are drawn, trust the call of your soul. Book Your Place in this Circle Here
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We recognise you will have your own unique enquiry about this group & how it might relate to your life. We encourage you to reach out & allow us to support you in finding clarity about whether or not this is right for you. Call 01452 813241 or email if you have other questions.
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Who will journey with you?
Those drawn to Secret Garden usually have maturity, sensitivity, self-responsibility, & rich life experience. You will meet men & women from every walk of life, businessmen & women, musicians, health workers, artists, coaches & trainers, doctors, actors, body workers, lawyers, parents, writers, careworkers, facilitators, counsellors, & much more, & often from several countries.
Most, young or older, will have already looked deeply into life & meditative practice. You are courageous explorers stepping out beyond what is known.
It is a wonderful gift, taking time out to hang out with people who love depth & authenticity & the freedom of being. The support, nourishment & confidence of being loved in all you are is priceless. Doubt about valuing what your heart knows dissolves.
How do you participate?
How you participate is totally up to you as long as you are respectful of all others.
A safely held exploration, the Joyful Loving Ongoing Circle is a tender & nurturing environment in which your vulnerability, privacy & confidentiality are protected at all times. (Photography & video is only used with those who have consented).
You are supported throughout in being in the structures & experiences in the way that feels true to you. Any sexual & gender orientation is welcome.
All your chosen boundaries in any presenting situation – which give you core foundations for this enquiry – are honoured & respected. No physical contact is an appropriate choice where right for you. You are safe & free to explore & find your freedom to be you, in love.
Whatever your lifestyle choices, relating is something that touches you, all of us, through friends, family, colleagues & is welcome material in the circle.
This ongoing circle gives you…
There is nothing as potent for your life as the magic of a Secret Garden ongoing group… unprecedented levels of intimacy, trust & insights. Courage & friendship evolve when you know you are together over time; the incredible adventures are irreplaceable. Because we can work at the depth where life transforming change can happen, & because there is the safety of close bonding over a sustained period, you can open & resolve your deepest, core issues. Deep personal awakenings, insights, opening, healing & life-transformation are optimized for every participant & – whatever you might think or feel – you are always secure in your belonging & value.
There is a constant bridge with your everyday life, because the modules are well spread out, allowing integration, yet there is ongoing contact, if desired, with the online forum. We create a sangha, spiritual community, free of ideology about how life should be. ‘You’ are simply a natural unfolding process. This is an all-new experiment in conscious evolution of you as you enhance your capacity for conscious relating.
As each module includes a weekend, time taken off work is limited to what is practical, allowing this journey to fit in easily with other committments. There is ongoing support via private sessions, in addition to the online forum, to thoroughly integrate the learnings & awakenings after each module, into your ordinary life. The structure will be intensive enough to generate the input & energy you need, subtle enough to convey the depths of awakening, & yet also accommodating the realities of your busy lives.
Create a regular retreat where you root in transmission of natural reality & are inspired to wake up from the dream of conditioned mind, cutting through layers of what isn’t true or essential, into who or what you are in the moment. Directly experience your true nature. Resolution of all dualities & suffering in your loving & relating is possible.
Places available for those who can commit to the whole journey & are strictly limited.
Joyful Loving – Your Questions & Joy’s Responses
What do you need to know to decide if this course is right for you? If you’re on the fence, wondering whether to jump into this gorgeous circle (& yes! there are many riches on the other side) here’s Joy’s responses to questions she’s been asked most, to help you decide. We recognise that you will have your own unique enquiry about this group & how it might relate to your life. We also encourage you to reach out & allow us to support you in finding clarity about whether or not this is right for you now.
I’m keen but I’m really busy. How much time do I need for this?
It’s high value in Secret Garden that awakening work is integrated into your ordinary life. 12 of the training days are at weekends & 3 more are Bank holidays, so that’s only 9 weekdays needed over 2 years. It’s recommended you do at least 15 minutes home practice each week – but you can always take a break & start up again when you have the time. The Circle energy holds you in your life whatever is going on.
Is it worth the investment?
The financial investment may initially seem high, but the facilitation costs are deliberately kept on the low side, there is an instalment option, & catering costs & any desired accommodation can be paid for later, in 2 stages. I’ve seen crazy prices for courses not as good as this-only 1 module costing £9000+ with a less experienced, less able facilitator. This makes Joyful Loving look excellent value especially with discounts &/or bonuses. This gives you full on support for 18 months.
And what is the price of your life not working well? Financially & in terms of potentially broken families, divorce, holdbacks in career etc?
What is the cost to you in lost fulfilment, unrealised intelligence, poor choices & a less expanded life & income – of playing a smaller game in your life than you could?
I did a calculation that amazed me. When I am with a group you have pretty much total access to me. I don’t hide behind a stage or hordes of assistants. A module is around 37 hours. 6 modules mean that’s 222 hours of group time. For a private one to one session I charge £89-£119 per hour. So if you join this group you receive direct access to me that would in private sessions cost £19758 to £26,418! Expertise always speeds up effective results. Investing in your transformation is the best you can make. No one can take your gains away, they can’t be lost. This ongoing work reaps rich, practical rewards in your outer life too.
Does this approach really ‘work’?
YES! -many men & women have experienced this. Even I have been surprised by the total passion & moving transformational stories in the feedback I receive. Awakening work is not suitable for you if you feel or believe for whatever good reason you must stay in your present circumstances and mindset. Or if you feel and believe that inner transformation does not work –then it won’t.The impact of this work does, of course, depend on your willingness to follow the programme with totality & commit to taking actions aligned with new insights gathered & the openings you experience during the training – in your everyday, ordinary life. I share testimonials to reassure you that this is REAL, authentic & groundbreaking, cutting edge exploration, that WILL BENEFIT YOU, in your ordinary life
I feel really nervous, resistant & afraid of doing this course. Does that mean I shouldn’t do it? I’m not sure I’m ready…
Fear is the most common feeling – along with excitement – around real, ongoing transformational work. We’ve had so many negative messages around living awake & being large, expanded, being sexually alive. This energy, plus healing into wholeness, peeling away trance, denial repression, is essential rocket fuel for happiness & for your transformational process. It’s all about baby steps… incremental progress with safe holding & clear reflection adds up to extraordinary, life-changing gain. When I’m facilitating groups around the world about ‘your’ evolutionary awakening, it’s often assumed that there is one glamorous answer or event in life that solves everything. There isn’t. Your belief in that will keep you stuck. You simply need high quality, ongoing reflection, self-honesty, loving, awake community so you get loved just as you are & safe space – which you get in Secret Garden ongoing groups – so you can risk going beyond your comfort zone. Come because you have asked this question and because you feel fear. Learning to befriend your fears is one of the treasures offered by every Secret Garden circle. To be unsure whether you are ready, & that is an understandable feeling, nobody ever really is ready for transformation. The personality clings to what is known even when it is becoming too small. It really is best to trust your wish to come, especially if you tend to talk yourself out of your deep longings.
My love life is already great, what can this course do for me?
Embodied awakening work & spiritual practice is like yoga: the more you do it, the deeper & lighter you go. Some benefits are full-bodied orgasm, which can be used for spiritual practice, better health, & awakening fluid energetic flow in the chakra energetics, & creating an abundance of creative life opportunities by aligning life with truth
Men are no good, (or women drive me mad). What’s the point?
The best way to find out what’s in the way of love for you being in love with life & even being with your dream partner is to look inside with total self-honesty. The men & women in life & the circle are your exact mirror. As they become your perfect lover, your circumstances change for the good.
What about Couples?
You may be a couple who know you need to connect deeply in held space to break through habitual ways of seeing, conflicts & struggles, together. You may have a partner who doesn’t share your passion for truth but supports your own lone exploration, because it increases the love you share. Or maybe you are a couple keen to serve each other deeply into spiritual awakening. It’s all welcome, including dynamics between you – the field looks after every outcome you bring. This group is focused on your own awakening & how that reveals ways to enhance the relating dream you create outside of you. Your increased aliveness, self-worth & love will help your relationship so much. And you will dive deep into love for everything you need to let go of & learn in order in order to be able to make love with absolute pristine consciousness. Aaah sweet surrender!
I’m single – will this course work for me? And can I come without a partner?
Yes! All Secret Garden workshops are suitable for both singles & couples. You can come with a friend who is acting as ‘your partner’ for the duration of the workshop, if you like, but it isn’t necessary to do that. The entire course is designed to work for you man or woman, either alone or with a partner, or for those who are in relationship but attend alone. And if you want a partner in your life, you are far more likely to attract the right one for you during or after this training! It’s likely if you are drawn to Secret Garden that you are looking to deepen your realisation of beingness, above all-and, there, there are no relationships! Just Love.
How much of your Most Intimate message is in this course?
This is a profound transmission. It is not directly The Most Intimate, because Joyful Loving Ongoing is a course which necessarily addresses the (only apparent) claimed, separate identity & invites an opening beyond that. Its hidden context, its ground, is always The Most Intimate.
In the story, awakenings to & realisation of essence happen to people. Joyful Loving ongoing facilitates & speeds that.
To pretend you are not longing to feel fully loved & able to be fully loving or for your ultimate freedom or can put worldly things first does you a disservice.
How much tantra is in this course?
Most tantra on the market is superficial & gives people a ‘high’ experience which is then not grounded. Nor does it assist people in the dismantling & integration required for true healing & wholeness. Joyful Loving training is a beautifully comprehensive, synthesised way to give you the awakening tools & archetypal depth to to free the body & being of old conditioning & create insights & openings & fluidity in the chakra system that are essential to a vibrant, healthy, happy relating life. It will make any spiritual practice much deeper & more immediate. This is a profound transmission of Tantric & Daoist practice, from me & Tim, a couple who have a joint 50 years of living it. Above all it gives you the foundational principles & tools I found were essential to a vibrant, healthy way of being & an awakened, true life for a man or woman. I’m an AWAKENER & have offered liberation in the realm of deep transformation, including s-xuality & its invitation to freedom, for 20 years. I’m passionate about giving you the wake up calls, the tools, the loving holding & the deep openings to create the love you know somewhere is possible, the life you long for. To pretend you are not a s-xual being does you a disservice, so this course goes very deep into that arena, yet is always grounded in ordinariness. It isn’t about a hyped up experience you just have in the workshop. Its context, its ground, is always The Most Intimate.
Am I too old / young to do this course?
No. Participants’ ages range from early twenties to seventies enrolled at the moment – awakeness & aliveness can grow & sensuality heals at any age. Whatever your age, nationality, walk of life, your uniqueness is warmly welcome.
Is this safely held space? Will my boundaries be respected? Can I change them if I need or want to?
Please be assured that your boundaries are always sacrosanct and will always be respected. Your boundaries are likely to be different in each encounter & structure. Realising clarity about boundaries in any situation & learning to communicate them is a very important aspect of this Secret Garden (and life!). Consciousness of them & the capacity & willingness to communicate them is crucial in a life well-lived.
How will this course compare with other trainings?
Most ‘transformational’ work & teachings in the new age & spiritual marketplace are superficial & give people a ‘high’ experience which is then not grounded. Much so-called healing & ‘awakening’ work, including mis-named non duality teaching that is available, is also very misguided, playing to people’s hope and pride & building up & reinforcing the identity rather than assisting in dismantling it. Nor does it assist people in the ruthless dismantling & integration required for true healing & wholeness. This is not a course that will appeal to ‘new-age seekers’. It is essential enquiry for those I love to work – those who are sincerely committed to awakeness & consciousness in their lives & relating.
Why would I want to listen to others or relate to a whole group?
Being in the circle with totality is a meditation. Everything shared touches you in some way. Everything is your own invitation to dive deeper & be in love with existence, with life as it is. Let the life of the circle grow your heart wide open. The best way to find out what’s in the way of love & awakeness is to look inside with total self-honesty. The apparent others outside of you reliably point to your judgements & feelings which ask for your love & attention.
In turn you receive the power of the holding of a circle of committed fellow travellers. We need to be witnessed in our human beingness in order for pain to dissolve into the joy that always is, always was & ever shall be. The circle is your perfect mirror. It can become your perfect lover.
Shouldn’t I just wait until next time? Or try to meditate more at home?
Secret Garden gives you ongoing conscious community, as well as profound inner journeying. Healing is more powerful when experienced in a group. Wounds more often appear to be ’caused’ by others. So it is through others that we deeply heal mis-trust, separation, conflict. It is much safer to seem ‘sorted’, ‘together’ & to know who one is at a personality level, but that is all made up! When light & love increase, old pain can surface or strong emotions about unresolved current situations WILL come up yet easily dissolve if you are ready. As you move towards freedom & joy, it is INEVITABLE that in intimate relating such as in the circle, you will contact any unresolved shame, emptiness, hatred, judgements & not good enough-ness. Even though the stories of our pain are different, pain itself is collective & requires others’ mirroring, sometimes witnessing if you choose, &, above all, love, to allow you to dissolve past & trance fully. This is easier than you may think but requires great compassion from friends in the vibrant spiritual community you create in the circles, & great authenticity & self-honesty. Then, you have to integrate the learnings & TAKE ACTION, take small risks, be self-honest in ordinary life.
I don’t know how to relate-I always get it wrong & I’m not loveable
You are a human being. Evolution is natural & inbuilt – stronger than the negative messages you have been told or the limits you’ve taken on. I will guide you, answer your questions, above all love you, every step. The mind will never acknowledge gains & wishes to preserve the status quo, even if it’s your smallness. It will diminish the significance of breakthroughs in order to maintain its conditioned grip, because it feels ‘safer’. Co-operate with nature’s impulses & your suffering will decrease, ease & happiness will increase, Let others love you until self-love grows, sweetly & organically, self-love is the primary way we heal & align with life so that all else just gets so easy. Past patterning always get reflected back in your life precisely, until you find a guide to help you do the work of unpicking your limited map of reality. The mind plays many tricks along the way of the awakening journey. This training helps you see them, love them & let them go for good. I can’t help you if you refuse the help that is available; reach for the support for your freedom.
I have participated in other tantra workshops/ Joyful Loving before – is this suitable for me?
This training & its energetics is continuously evolving. The format & content will be all-new. It has always been significant & valuable for every participant, & in many different ways – regardless of previous tantric experience or none of it. It is for you if you are seeking something richer, healthier, wiser & deeper than was offered by the sexual climate & attitudes towards man-woman & relating in which you were brought up. It is appropriate for everyone who comes with an openness to participating – in their own way – in an experience involving sensual & possibly erotic structures. People with previous experience of tantra work find a new depth & unexpected realisations & liberating discoveries in this training.
Perhaps it will hurt too much or rock my boat to start facing myself & others? Can’t cope with intensity.
It hurts a lot more not to! Others sense your pain even if you think you keep everything ‘together’. Unresolvedness will get mirrored back to you in your life in all sorts of unpredicted ways. Resistance to life & living weighs your being down. Life is intense if you don’t have conscious support & education about what helps you surf the waves.
I’ve never felt really fulfilled in love before – can this course help?
Yes! Through the level of trust & friendship that develops between circle participants, old patterns of separation dissolve. The structures bring specific opportunities to explore your limits to love deeply enough that they disappear. Men have learned & been amazed about things they’ve never known about women, themselves & love before. Women have now had their first o through doing the Joyful Loving course! & many find they deepen trust & bodily pleasure in ways they never dreamed of. You will have a new experience of relaxation & surrender into peak experiences & gradually everyday life becomes an ecstacy.
I want to do this course, but I feel I may or will have to share with you something that I think is too strange or difficult to be heard
Nothing is too strange or difficult. Holding onto something all by yourself is lonely, stressful & unnecessary. You are welcome to share whatever you need to share so you can embrace this journey of integration & love. Your honesty is others’ opportunity – to open their hearts wide! And know that how you participate is up to you, always.
What degree of intimacy is expected between participants? Do I have to remove my clothes or be intimate with people I don’t choose to be that way with?
It’s entirely up to you how close the contact with others is that you choose. You will always be invited to find your own true way, & sense for yourself how far you want to open, what feels good & right for you. Your own chosen boundaries will always be respected. The structured explorations, led by me & Tim, are essence-ial to a an awakened, true life for you as man or woman, ntended to invite exploration at depth. This course invites you safely & carefully into the Daoist and Tantric lovemaking practices & we are a couple who have a joint 40+ years of living that. You can participate in the whole training fully clothed & without any physical contact, if you wish. You will still be fully engaged & learning, healing & opening so much. This is, ultimately, a profound transmission of liberation & unconditional Love. Nevertheless, conscious relating & sexuality will be brought as a theme because knowledge of & friendship with these is crucial if your life force is to flow. Every choice is always yours.
What can I expect will happen in this training?
You will be expertly & almost invisibly guided into structures and experiences which allow you to feel life & your being more deeply than ordinary life might allow. The training includes pair work, small & large group processes; solo inner explorations guided by Joy; dynamic meditations; circle work which gives you the opportunity to engage with Joy; occasional dance sessions; & you can expect some surprises, as what happens is guided not only by carefully planned structures, but also by the present needs of the participants & the group energetic.
I hope this helps you decide whether the course is right for you! We wish for you to make the right decision. Please email or call me if you aren’t sure about whether to join us.
Book Your Place Here Before They’ve Gone
Words can’t express the learnings I’ve had through you & the awakening that’s happened….the experience of life is so totally different from 18 months ago. I feel reborn, a different person. I’m more grateful than I can express ….. blissful … “I” was a swirling cloud of energy in a peaceful harmonious sea of perfection. (Yes I can’t find words to describe it!) Now I’m very peaceful about everything ~ Neal Thornton, Chiswick
When you book, you receive
* 24 intensive full days, over 18-20 months. This ensures full integration of extremely high quality reflection, facilitation of deep & core process, initiations & structures, feedback on gifts & strengths from Joy if desired. Group size is strictly limited for your benefit.
* A facilitated online forum you can participate in actively if you wish, when you wish, for between-module vital integration, interaction, learning & support. The forum brings you ongoing en-couragement & remembering of what this ongoing circle stands for in your life. It anchors your ordinary life in the light this work brings.
* If you already participated in ongoing training group with Joy, all course content on this one will be completely new, an endless spiral of aliveness unfolding, ever more rewarding!
* There will be opportunities in between modules for in depth one to one or couple work with Joy – psychotherapeutic or shamanic – on the issues & challenges the group faces you with. If you are an Ongoing participant, you are always prioritised for private sessions.
* Receipts for your tax advisor &/or a course completion certificate can be provided for Continuous Professional Development (CPD) credits if you work in a field which includes coaching, healing & transformation.
* You receive all 4 Special Bonuses above
* You have an instalment option – only if you book within the specified period for this – & you can receive couple/friend discounts too.
Limited Time Bonuses
Your Guide to Awakened Intimacy
Essential keys to dissolve the challenges of your intimate relating & ways to enhance connection. E – book
Free Bonus Value £9
Essence – Manifest Your Hearts Desire
a deep meditation which enables you to experience more choice around whatever desire in relating or maybe a large life goal you bring to this inner enquiry. You will let go of anything you no longer need and move into action if appropriate. MP3 Download
Free Bonus Value £29
The profound energetic healing of Ho’oponopono brings increased freedom, self-love, happiness & creativity. It also boosts your calm & vitality. Live life now, beyond stories. MP3 Download
Free Bonus Value £19
10% off other course fees!
Save 10% on all your other course fees
for any evening, day workshop, retreat or online webinar series while the training is in progress. This is a significant saving which supports your rounded opening
Potential value of £300+
*All Bonuses Given Only If you Book Before the Early booking deadline*
Pay in instalments by July 19th
Your course & forum membership fee, Bonuses (book & pay 1st instalment by midnight July 19th)
2 person & graduate discounts can also apply
Pay in advance by July 19th
Your course & forum membership fee, Bonuses (book & pay in full by midnight July 19th)
2 person & graduate discounts can also apply
So join us now…..this surrender to the pleasure in Being, to the organic unison of your depths, sensuality & child spirit you can realise in Joyful Loving, brings the nectar of beauty, joy & soul in ‘your’ relating life
Will You Join Us?
This is your only chance to book at early booking prices! We encourage you to jump & take advantage of this great window of opportunity before all course fees must rise.
Comparable trainings of this quality are often offered at three times the price, with massive travel expenses. So your time & financial investment for this high quality life changing course is small & excellent value relative to the massive lifetime benefits you can reap.
Seize this rare opportunity. It will never come again, this way, or at this unique point in your life!
How much is exquisite expertise worth to you? How much is a loving, trustworthy guide – who has dedicated their whole life from childhood, to truth & love – worth to you?
How much is a clear mirror & mastery worth? How much is authentic, ongoing community, dedicated to intentional enquiry & consciousness, worth to you?
Please be aware that places are limited. A powerful, mature circle is gathering so don’t miss your chance to catch the early booking price– there won’t be another Joyful Loving Ongoing Training for several years (if it’s offered again)
This is a beautiful present for your loved one or yourself!
This group will fill fast so book now. Enrol now & bring world-class facilitation & support into your life.
If you’re feeling a YES, trust that soul call – you can.
Aloha. All love (Whichever side of the fence you end up on..;)),
Joy Hicklin-Bailey ❤️ ❤️
P.S Time to step up but you have to act now. This is your time. Join me now – I would love to be your awakening guide, to serve you to be the love you are so you can live an expanded life of beauty & joy.
You can do this – live the love you are. See you soon Book your place here
I have spent 15 years learning and reading about spiritual awakening, in these few days the truth of it unfolded for the first time. And life is so much better now! Thank you is inadequate ~ Sally Meadows, Guildford
Trust your pull to what cannot be spoken of
The freedom dance of Being
Beyond experiences, beyond what is apparently happening, beyond emotions & judgements, is space, no-thing, vastness, endlessly expressing what is. The unconditional receiver of all the stories, is Love that allows everything to be exactly as it is, & dissolves all problems. ‘You’ are that boundless freedom.
Here’s what you can do…
The separate self cannot truly love. This ongoing group is nothing to do with self-improvement or fixing anyone. It is about bringing consciousness into being, & relating. Profound opening to all that is, difficult or easy, beautiful or ugly, is key. Then Nature flowers in the human body, free of conditioning. Realisation that ‘you’ are Life itself, there is no separation, & that Love is the only ‘solution’ must then be stabilised in embodiment of awakeness. To the degree this happens, relating has more love in it. Separately, you can only ‘make yourself available’ for the freedom that is. As all that was believed in or felt collapses, a new possibility may – or not – emerge, of unification, of liberation into being. The mind cannot conceive that waking up & absolute freedom are not connected in any way. Secret Garden makes a clear distinction between these in this -in all – circles.
Take the Road Less Travelled with Someone who Knows the Territory
Joy is currently writing a book with the working title
“Joyful Loving – The Gateway to Being”
Joy Hicklin-Bailey is such a world – class, profoundly effective facilitator that several internationally renowned teachers & coaches go to her confidentially to solve their life & love issues, & go to her for supervision work. Joy is a spiritual counsellor & an outstanding coach in the areas of natural happiness, intimate emotional & sexual relating, & professional development. Joy has been working with awakened embodiment coaching with individuals, couples & groups for over 20 years. In this group, Joy brings you her expertise in human dynamics & transformational evolution. She transmits the emergence of Self or beingness, for those who are drawn to wholeness & freedom. Joy’s clients come from all walks of life & include professionals, mothers, fathers, celebrities, farmers, artists, healers, & more. She works with immediacy, tenderness & utter clarity.
‘It’s beautiful, this witnessing of those I sit with finding aliveness, the natural flow of feelings, and what is beyond, the power & peace of a clear seeing of what is, in their ordinary lives & in what arises in the circles & sessions I have the privilege of facilitating.
Secret Garden points towards your ‘journey’ of awakening into embodied realisation of non-duality, of one, not two, into that which is beyond words. Whatever is – in the appearance – happening, the separate self’s hijacking of pure experience loses its hold & natural reality may be revealed.
Community, connection, presence, being, peace, intimacy, vulnerability, love, are beautiful gifts in the unfolding human story…. these are the qualities ‘I’ value & enjoy in the playshop of ‘my own’ life. My passion in Joyful Loving, Essence & Joyful Living events is an empowering of presence, awakeness, essence, from which comes natural power, joy, love & abundance. I love to see people shed the masks, armour & uniforms adopted in worldly activity or challenging relating, & come more & more to trust their nature, their deepest truth. That heals everything & then everything in the apparent story changes! Most of all, I love to share (directly in Most Intimate events & as transmission in other work) with those who are interested in exploring the natural reality of what is, unconditional love without cause, what cannot be sought, radiant being.
Since early childhood ‘I’ have experienced a series of spontaneous awakenings, in which the conditioned self dissolved, that have – in the apparent unfolding story that never was – lasted for longer & longer periods & radically transformed the experience of living on this beautiful planet into one of liberation, being.
The integration into ordinary life of this total surrender took many years. I only discuss this if asked – ‘spiritual’ experiences are simply that, experiences. What is, here, now, is ever changing & new – the stories are not the essence. In that ‘story’ that never was, I have been drawn to mystical & spiritual teachings since early childhood & I am very grateful to have worked with extraordinary teachers, indigenous & western. During this period, the energetic sense of a separate self completely & absolutely dissolved, leaving simply the wonder of what is.
Many years apprenticeship & training in healing & psychotherapeutic disciplines* grounded what was ‘experienced’ & gave ways in which liberated being could be offered in a safely held way in this garden dedicated to the blossoming of human beingness. The ‘approach’ is a sensing, feeling, seeing & listening to all that is apparently happening in the moment yet the mystery brings intuitive guidance. The intelligence of life plays immaculately & sometimes surprisingly. Silence & non-doing, rather than controlling what is happening with an agenda, allows apparent healing, magical unfolding & revelation of the wholeness beyond the appearance of form, identity & role – the wondrous gift of Life itself.
For over 20 years, there has been profound pleasure in & great gratitude for Secret Garden’s transformational weekend, day, week-long retreats, ongoing trainings & evening groups in Gloucestershire, Bristol, Bath, Somerset, Andalucia, Italy, the Greek islands & the Hawaiian islands, & one to one & couple sessions.‘
*Joy is a qualified, practising Jungian psychotherapist, & the founding facilitator of Essence work & Joyful Loving work. She is a hypnotherapist, a Huna healer, an expert in ancient lineage work with ancestors & family (the source of constellations work), Time Line therapist, NLP Master Practitioner & Trainer, & astrological counsellor. She is a highly regarded business/executive coach & trainer at management & director level in organisations such as Centrica & Aviva, several well-known charities, & more.
Practical details you need to know – dates, times, venues
Module 1 Details
Venue: Central Stroud
Dates: Saturday, October 19-Tuesday, October 22
Times: Start at 10 30am Sat Close 3 30pm Tues
Accommodation: Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired
Module 2 Details
Venue: Location & Venue tbc (Module 2 or 3 will be Residential)
Dates: Between early to end Feb, 2020
Times: Start at 11 am Sat dep 3 30pm Tues
Accommodation: Module 2 or 3 residential, remaining module Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired
Module 3 Details
Venue: Location & Venue tbc (Module 2 or 3 will be Residential)
Dates: May bank holiday tbc, 2020
Times: Start at 10 30 am Sat dep 3 30pm Tues
Accommodation: Module 2 or 3 residential, remaining module Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired
Module 4 Details
Venue: Central Stroud
Dates: Late September or early October, 2020
Times: Start at 11 am Sat dep 3 30pm Tues
Accommodation: Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired
Module 5 Details
Venue: Near Stroud
Dates: Late December 2020-New Year, 2021
Accommodation: Residential Fully Catered (fee due late autumn 2020). It is truly special to know that this circle will be sharing New Year 2020-21 together at a very beautiful residential venue, with delicious food, beautiful gardens and walks..all our needs looked after.
Module 6 Details
Venue: Central Stroud
Dates: Spring, likely Easter, 2021
Times: Start at 10 30am Sat dep 3 30pm Tues
Accommodation: Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired
The ongoing group comprises 6 x 4 day modules spread over about 18-20 months. Each module comprises 2 weekdays & a weekend so you only need 2 weekdays for each module away from work, or one day at the bank holiday modules. In total you use just 9 weekdays, yet receive all the in-depth transformation that only an ongoing course can give.
Exact dates for modules 2-6 will be confirmed later, once half the group has gathered. If future date information is essential info for you now-please ask by phone or email. On booking, please email any already absolutely unmoveable dates to Joy’s office & these will be avoided if at all possible. Please diary the date windows given above & keep them clear once you have booked your place. This ensures you & all delegates can attend.
Full commitment is important from a transformational, healing & growth perspective. If one day has to be missed unavoidably, then that is understood. This group will fill quickly, there are limited numbers & there has been a lot of interest through word of mouth already.