To all Women & Men Who Value Awake Intimacy, a heartfelt address

I was looking through a filing cabinet yesterday and just came across the notes for an address I gave a little while ago. This was at the beautiful wedding of a man and woman I love very much, and have the privilege of sitting in circles ongoing with. They had asked me to be their…

Sometimes the Unconscious is a Trickster

In the recent video, which prompted this written riff on it, I'm responding about a question a woman asked me as we chatted before the circle formally opened. She asked about something that she perceived had happened with her partner 'projecting onto her' and whether I felt she was 'right' to respond as she did. I…

The Glimpse – Live Like a Virgin

The video above is one glimpse of circle, a recording of a tender conversation between Joy and a man who was experiencing grief about his lack of desire and passion for his partner. The particular circumstances might resonate for you. If they don't, there is still so much in this video that is relevant to, and…

Why is it so hard for man to be The Lover? (Part 2)

Guest blog In Part 1 we looked at the challenges we as men consciously and unconsciously face in giving up control and finding the flow of giving and receiving in life – easier said than done, but well worth giving attention to. If you haven't read Part 1 yet, I suggest you go to Why is…

Why is it so hard for man to be The Lover? (Part 1)

This post, below, is a guest blog from Tim my beloved life partner, who plays an essential part in Secret Garden both in the background between groups and supporting me, and all of us, during them - most actively during the Joyful Loving explorations. I thought this catchy title would grab your attention – either…

The Natural Reality is Undivided

Freedom, wholeness, cannot be 'got' or 'owned'. Nothing can ever be done to 'achieve' it. The Most Intimate message can apparently dissolve the trying. 'Me' dissolves because it isn't real. Freedom is the life that infuses all forms and is not changed at all when any or all forms are gone.Glimpses may occur - but…

When the Snow Melts

A massive thank you is due. Love and respect to all who created such a rich, laughter-filled, deep New Year gathering. Radiant aliveness, truth, fierceness, healing, presence, tender care, accountability, intimacy, transparency, each moment glistened. ❤️❤️ Some people think they come to Secret Garden to make their lives work better. There is nothing wrong with that…

What’s Strictly got to do with Waking Up?!

Why watch Strictly when I love silence & stillness at the end of a day? It may surprise you - Strictly has much in common with Secret Garden's awakening work (and Secret Garden of course invites and gives you many vitalising things that Strictly does not!) It’s very interesting what others can assume about freedom…

The Simplicity of Sensational Life

Freedom, wholeness, cannot be 'got' or 'owned'. Nothing can ever be done to 'achieve' it. The Most Intimate message can apparently dissolve the trying. 'Me' dissolves because it isn't real. Freedom is the life that infuses all forms and is not changed at all when any or all forms are gone.Glimpses may occur - but…

Do you move with or against Life’s Intelligence?

What if any unhappiness comes from unknowingly working against life's true purpose and indeed its 'intention'? Part of waking up (the painful part) is more awareness of, clarity about, where and how you do this. However, once you begin to learn about life's inherent exquisite order and your own patternings and start to work in alignment with…