The video above is one glimpse of circle, a tender conversation about feeling 'stuck'. I am asked frequently verbally and via email, 'What happens in circles? The aliveness of structures, initiations and circle is impossible to convey in words. Anything can arise. Men and women may get stuck when they feel lonely, feel attracted to,…
I was looking through a filing cabinet yesterday and just came across the notes for an address I gave a little while ago. This was at the beautiful wedding of a man and woman I love very much, and have the privilege of sitting in circles ongoing with. They had asked me to be their…
In the recent video, which prompted this written riff on it, I'm responding about a question a woman asked me as we chatted before the circle formally opened. She asked about something that she perceived had happened with her partner 'projecting onto her' and whether I felt she was 'right' to respond as she did. I…
The video above is one glimpse of circle, a recording of a tender conversation between Joy and a man who was experiencing grief about his lack of desire and passion for his partner. The particular circumstances might resonate for you. If they don't, there is still so much in this video that is relevant to, and…
Guest blog In Part 1 we looked at the challenges we as men consciously and unconsciously face in giving up control and finding the flow of giving and receiving in life – easier said than done, but well worth giving attention to. If you haven't read Part 1 yet, I suggest you go to Why is…
This post, below, is a guest blog from Tim my beloved life partner, who plays an essential part in Secret Garden both in the background between groups and supporting me, and all of us, during them - most actively during the Joyful Loving explorations. I thought this catchy title would grab your attention – either…
Those who have not undergone full transmutation through relating (to spouse, partner or life guide) harden against their own humanity and that of the other through self-protection, opinions, blame, separation, judgement & over-thinking (animus in woman/female) or intense emotional reactivity, fear of containment, fantasy and chaos of mind (anima in man/male). The fling, or the…
Why we sit in same gender circles in Secret Garden When we invite men and women to sit in circles of their own gender, a separate event or within an ongoing mixed gender group, it is because something is moving that asks for the particular holding and exploratory journeying of sisterhood and brotherhood, in the…
She is in Man and Woman Why we sit in same gender circles occasionally in Secret Garden Gender is not who you are-yet it appears to make a very big difference! When we invite men and women to sit in circles of their own gender, it is because something is moving in the loose community…
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