The Journey of Relationship

Here is a video from one of the always-new Joyful Loving Weekends -  "The ‘Journey’ of Becoming Joy & Love" - find out how each aspect of the five aspects of the territory of intimate relating – urges the evolutionary impulse towards consciousness and then awakening, beyond wanting, hurt, loss, disappointment and conflict. I hope
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Boundaries – made up, yet vital for a happy ‘story’ Part 1

Boundaries are 'made up' - yet vital for a happy story...what do I mean? This is such a vast subject. and I will touch on just a few aspects here. Healthy boundaries are vital for happiness in life, perhaps especially in the realms of family life and intimate relating.  Boundaries change over time and in
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Living beyond blame

Do you act, speak, feel as though you are 100% responsible for your life? If so, then you respond authentically and with wholeness, totality in the moment rather than with robotic conditioning. Before taking full responsibility, many people play the role of the victim and blame their circumstances or other people for their circumstances and concerns. Such projections distort
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Awake in Being, the deepest gift of falling in love

Maytime….delicious abundance and vitality abound and Karen asked me in a blog comment to write about falling in love and relationship…... The word ‘relationship’ implies the negotiation between two or more separate identities, two or more different perspectives. Your being in its purity, is not, cannot be, in relationship with another - infinity, being, knows no separation,
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The Power and Beauty of Vulnerability

'You' are the pure being that allows all experience to be, without condition. Vulnerability is a beautiful quality of being. Being is endless, infinite. Vulnerability allows a sharing and celebration of the depths of that ocean of being, the currents of which are generally hidden from view by the defence and role play of the separate self. A human being who
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Loss and Wonder

In beingness, there is no problem. There is no suffering, no conflict, no lack. Only what is arising, full on! In the appearance, when a separate 'you' begins to relate to others and the mind has attached to ideology about how things should be or how people should behave, or has held on to memories, and to unwanted or  wanted
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Love or Attachment?

As you become free-er of limiting conditioning and ideology, as your I is a less fixed identity, so relationships inevitably change. Sometimes those who participate in groups or sessions worry that the increased freedom and letting go, the dissolving of the stories, is also going to undermine the loving connection. But the opposite is true
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Most Intimate, Aliveness Moves, Stillness Listens

Being awake is a falling away of apparent solidity. When that happens there is no one to see it, no one left to be happy about it. There is only what is. The naturalness that is, always, even in spite of the hologram of a seemingly separate self and its finite and limited world. If we
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Celebrate Yes and No

Allowing your yes and no fully, moment by moment, improves relating & deepens intimacy. https://secretgarden.co.uk/joyful-loving-courses-and-events/