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being in a circle that serves the highest potential of your humanity – realise the joy and wonder of being, while holding you in a profound enquiry into relating, man-woman polarity and your sensual naturalness. With support from committed fellow travellers, move beyond resistance, stories and concepts of you, other & sexual connection, and embody limitless potency, love and space, which is what you are. Feel deeply, explore, communicate, find pleasure, with ‘the other’ and with Life. Find the fullness of you as you relate, respond, receive.


…your rich immersion into self-love, and love of life’s simple, ordinary miraculousness. An invitation to embrace everything you meet and have ever met in your relating, and find the joy in it. A glorious adventure. This is a world-class, leading edge, six module experiential training in living your wholly integrated beingness and its fundamental archetypal energies, & exploring how you do you in your meetings with others. A dismantling of false veils of trance, apparent separation and old myths you no longer need. 

You will experience a deep holding that allows you to open where you have been stuck or fearful and find joy, and more deeply realise the love that is at the core of all existence. Heart-opening vulnerable relating is the gateway. Boundlessness is, always, anyway. Come live an expanded celebration of your humanity, the uniqueness of being you, the man or woman you are, with the stories you have lived & the life you are wishing to co-create now with others.

Enjoy a fusion of beauty, intimacy, innocence, healing, love, enquiry, sensuality, authentic, nourishing community, depth, nature, and celebration of Life, as it is.


You get the right support, high quality reflection, dialogue, inspiration and deep explorations in authentic, committed community, which integrate body & soul. You discover deep friendship with and acceptance of all that you and others are, and all that is, in existence. You learn to live so that every hurt, every shadow, stuckness, judgement, fear, disappointment, every vulnerability, fully received, brings you gifts as it dissolves.

Your relating life become more real, honest & supportive of who you naturally are. You grow clarity and vulnerability in your communication. 

You transmute your past conditioning about love, gender and sexuality into simple naturalness. You live in full openness to all life, which catalyses the natural evolutionary unfolding built into your physical and energetic body.

Spiralling freedom totally transforms you, the way you experience life & relating.

Join us…..Grow an embodied sensitivity to the polarities of male & female found in all nature.  Open to the inner marriage – dissolution of all opposites into beingness, unity consciousness. To whatever degree it is realised, it deepens friendship & harmony between you & your lovers, partners, spouses, children, parents & friends, & all you meet. Expect miracles, aliveness, wholeness. This surrender to the fullness of being, feelings, sexuality & spirit in organic unison, realised in Joyful Loving ongoing work, opens you to beauty, joy & soul in your relating & love-making.


If you are called to real transformation of your every day relating and you want to go ‘further’ than most can ever lead you, if you’re wondering whether to grab this rare, unique opportunity, see if these possibilities resonate….

Your life is already great, yet you sense there is more aliveness for you as a single man or woman, or between you as a couple. 

You long to break through the isolation, judgement and fear that is inevitable for the separate self & live the deep intelligence and seeing of the heart.

You wish to be more attractive to the ‘other’

You lose your own truths in relating

You value depth, realness, nature, sensitivity and simplicity.

Your intuit that relationships are perfectly designed to take you deeper in life, towards freedom. Discover how to co-operate with this evolutionary opportunity built into relationship. Then suffering & conflict in relating with all others, & between man & woman & between inner masculine & feminine, ceases & is replaced by mutual respect, tenderness & joy.

Awesome…How good it feels to communicate innocently. Becoming aware of my own wounding so it didn’t need to run/ruin my life ….Learning to speak up.  Learning to say no. This work invites your fundamental core beliefs, projections, judgements and woundings into the light. Extraordinary facilitation will help you release trauma, receive the gold buried in your shadow and celebrate you, just as you are.  To be received and loved when you cannot even bear to look at yourself is profoundly healing.  If you are in any way attracted to this, just do it. Joy’s extraordinary facilitation and the innate intelligence of this potent work will carry your gentle being even when you feel you do not have the capacity to put one foot in front of the other  ~  Jemma Brett, Scotland

Thank you both so much for that which is priceless, absolutely priceless Gold! ~Ashley Roberts, nr Bristol.

Join us for your profound, natural journey of waking up from separation in your relating life

…What will you experience?

Joyful Loving Ongoing is for you if you wish to invest in your long term happiness and freedom.

The quickest, surest way to heal into wholeness

Would you like your relationship life to be one of consciousness, tenderness, passion, pleasure, beauty & freedom?
Do you prefer the healing power of truth, depth & presence to replace ambivalence, compromise & disappointment? Then this group is for you!

Relating shows you exactly where you limit life. Go deep with Joy Hicklin-Bailey. Listening to life with expert guidance and safe holding allows you to move beyond patterns into freshness and clarity.

How Joyful is your loving day by day?

….the loving of you, of your opposite, of life itself in its simple, ordinary miraculousness? How free are you of projections about others? How open, vulnerable, not knowing & tender are you able to be? How clearly do you communicate your needs, boundaries, feelings? How present are you in your body? How fully do you live the the strong, clear, purposeful man you are or the radiant, powerful woman you are? How freely does your life force flow? Are you in friendship with your sexual energy in all its colours? Are you ready to live awakened intimacy?

Is this all-new group for you? If you ask, ‘Could love or life be any better for me?’ & answer yes, then join us! If you love & long for clarity, truth, love & presence in relating, & deeply satisfying sexual & sensual relationships that open you beyond mere desire for gratification in the moment, if you wish to live fully embodied, if you wish to live co-empowerment rather than co-dependency, if you sense the potency of awakened masculine & feminine, its creative, dynamic aliveness, beauty, purpose, passion & joy, join this ongoing group now, as places are limited for this life-changing opportunity.

Enjoy happy relating & conscious lovemaking. Take this journey – one of dismantling separate selfhood through heightening consciousness, then of unification, liberation into being. Transmute the lead of your conditioning into the gold of simple naturalness.

What will an ongoing group give me?

There is nothing as potent for your life as the magic of an ongoing group…the intimacy that builds, along with the trust, insights, the courage & friendship that evolve when you know you are together over time, the incredible adventures, are irreplaceable & priceless. Because we can work deep, & because there is the safety of close bonding & the pleasure of community, you can open & resolve your deepest, core relating issues. Join us if you wish for simple natural relating happiness and to go deeper in self-realisation.

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Join us…..Grow an embodied sensitivity to the polarities of male & female found in all nature & open to the inner marriage – dissolution of all opposites into beingness, unity consciousness. This surrender to the fullness of being, feelings, sexuality & spirit in organic unison, realised in Joyful Loving, opens you to beauty, joy & soul in your relating & love-making. It deepens friendship & harmony between you & your lovers, partners, spouses, children, parents & friends, & all you meet. Expect miracles, aliveness, wholeness.

More about how you will benefit from participating    Your Questions answered by Joy    Is it right for me -who books on this event?

What happens

24 days ongoing training in six 4-day retreats gives you the depth, accountability and committment so that deeply realised insights, openings to all aspects of your being, of relating to ‘other’, of your sexual energy and of life, profound healing, transformation, and integrated awakenings happen. Depth, intimacy, playfulness, transparency, powerful intentionality and naturalness develop naturally. Your waking up is dramatically accelerated when beingness is repeatedly activated by being with one who has realised liberation. Expanded consciousness can stabilise so you remain open and free always – even in the midst of unpleasant or challenging circumstances and in a world of increasing polarity. To be awake is to be sexually alive, whether you choose to express that or not. This is why it is essence-ial to explore your own holdbacks and desires and utter self-love while you inhabit this body you are in.

On the way, you will explore the archetypal foundations of your unique being, masculine and feminine energy. …. There will be life changing alchemical initiations in some modules. These initiations catalyse the priming of mental, emotional and physical awakening and celebrate your unique being. They are gateways to freedom and naturalness.

In this life-affirming, profoundly rejuvenating alchemical work, there will be a constant transmission of the awakeness you are already, as you are guided surely through profound shamanic ritual, ceremony, the most powerful meditations, guided structures, communication skills, a coming home to breath and body, potent emotional and physical healing through the energetic centres of the body, shadow work, dance, transpersonal and depth psychology, leading edge evolutionary work for awakened man and woman. It is acknowledged that the separate, conditioned self appears in the dream, and suffering and longing appear real. Compassionate holding and world-class facilitation bring revelation of sabotaging patterns and trances, and deep opening in love to all aspects of your own being, and to others. You discover the limitless potential you are. Creative possibilities and actions for ‘your’ life, aligned with life’s intelligence, emerge naturally.

Relate with joy to what is, here now, in you, in your opposite, in life
Discover profoundly opening sexual healing, & sensual massage

Learn beautifully whether your boundaries include any shared touch with others or not
Learn how you can create more intimacy, delight & infinite pleasure in your loving
Em-body Soul in your ordinary, miraculous life

Realise that you are Love, em-body Love

Sharing and touch

There will be sitting in silence, explorations in nature, spontaneous happenings, feedback structures, clarifying and energizing of your small and large intentions.

There will be intimate sharing in occasional gentle touch or massage or gentle tantric structures (your boundaries always clarified and then communicated, first), pairs and small groups, to explore, mark and acknowledge, so that there is a deeper and deeper acceptance and love for the life that flows in you and the choices you make. The insights and openings happen the more you realise a willingness to engage with what is, now.

Every thing, every circumstance, every feeling, the natural rhythms of expansion and contraction, in life, is the perfect invitation to reclaim soul and heart and take you deeper, more alive. The purpose of every step of this Being journey is to open you beyond the needy personality which sabotages your life – sometimes through surprise or new-ness in structures – into boundless heart-and-soul intelligence, the consciousness of presence to all of life happening endlessly now. It is only when your whole being opens to sensation-al life, that the intimacy of not knowing – the presence of absence – arises and ‘you’ fully receive the deep mysteries of waking up. There can be embodiment of the love and space at the heart of all that is, the aloha that runs through all creation. Revelation of the boundless intelligence of Life itself, the jewel of being may occur.

The Power of Circles

The circle provides the safety in which extraordinary personal breakthroughs and undreamed of freedom as you relate becomes possible. The transmission of freedom that Joy is empowers realisations beyond the small, conditioned personal self, because there is no agenda. The ‘approach’ is dynamic & responsive; the exact content is determined according to the needs & energy of the group in the moment.

Open sharing in our large circle also opens your heart to the vulnerable humanity of self & others, & shows you what is in the way of that heart opening, catalysing a healing into deepening trust, confidence and sensitivity.

Sitting together in the circle, we open to the mystery, beyond the mind’s ability to comprehend, of all that happens among us, to life’s intelligence, that creates the deep insights & wondrous awakenings to the truth of who you really are.

In the deeper Essence circle work, which may include dream work, ancestral (family lineage) healing, deep forgiveness work (self & others), you can, if you desire, release fixed attitudes and beliefs, for you &, if you are a parent, so your limits are not passed to your children. Your body, your feelings, your energy & your nature as man or woman is gradually freed of being run by the rejecting judgements, wounds, anxieties, assumptions & dilemmas you may have accumulated from your culture, parents, peers, partners & life’s challenges. living lighter enables the subtlety of direct experience of life’s empty fullness. This enriches every moment of relating.

Men’s and Women’s Circles

Men and women, you will spend some precious time separately with your own gender circle, sharing, & exploring gender-specific themes best explored in this safe space, which is so affirming of your manhood or your womanhood.

A powerful ongoing circle is gathering already, in which deep nourishment and spiritual support can be found and where the beauty and miracle of your nature is mirrored back to you over and over again. Melt into stillness and silence.


This circle supports conscious relating for couples if you choose to participate together & are committed to deepening your connection. You will be facilitated, as individuals & as a couple, through all those obstacles, stories & limits which can habitually, often unwittingly, thwart your highest potential for self-realisation, mutual shared happiness & physical delight in your own being and with your partner. You will learn how to clarify your shared boundaries, communicate them & commit to them, & sometimes change them in line with shared truth. Old survival patterns which can lead to pain & difficulty in relationship, & sabotage intimacy, dissolve when you know how to fully embrace experience as your own, communicate in a real & connected way, enhance energy & dive into presence.


There will also be time to let go & relax, space to enjoy community & friendship, good food & music, celebrations, nature, dancing, & the hot tub and enjoy the beautiful venues & countryside. There will be lots of humour & laughter!

Give yourself the rare gift of a group gathering with the intention of their own & others’ freedom…Book now as places are strictly limited.

Unconditional love in its highest expression, I never saw anything like it in my entire life…. This is too good to keep it secret.  This work takes me completely out of my comfort zone. I embrace the fear & find my courage to continue…..more patience and understanding …I’m not trying to control (my husband) and that’s very impressive for me…I’m proud of myself! ~ Susana Jimenez Montalvo, Leicestershire

Dear friend,

I’m honoured that you’re considering joining me for the Joyful Loving Ongoing group. If that which cannot be spoken of, beyond the confusion of your conceptual mind, if diving deep into being, is something you value highly & wish to give some time and energy to, I invite you to take your place in this very special circle for a profound & tender shared journey over 18 months.

When I first began my own awakening ‘journey’, I was just 7 years old. I never could have imagined where that & many more magnificent explosions into wonder would take me. In the final waking up phase of this story, I had the extraordinary privilege of receiving from two free beings & being apprenticed for 10 years to one of them. Pioneering work in the realm of consciousness & ancient wisdoms, while transmitting unconditional wholeness, has been my passion ever since. Sharing this Secret Garden, which is radical because it points direct to the root, to essence-ial nature – the core beyond story, thought & feeling, with anyone who feels called to receive it – is an endless gift.

Some will not take this opportunity – these explorations are counter to every assumption of mainstream culture & the status quo of the mind – & will miss the joy, love and freedom beyond the personal that is…Such is life! Yet it is clear; the evolutionary imperative for waking up out of the self-absorbed shell of the personality has never been so urgent; it is no longer a work for the few who leave the world to live in a monastery in the company of a spiritual master. For most, the re-activation of awakeness needs to occur repeatedly over several years, likely decades, to achieve stabilisation. Once fear & resistance are put aside, it becomes the ONE thing above all others in Life.

Since I began sharing these realisations with fellow lovers of truth & Life, I have been humbled and inspired to encounter generous human beings, so deeply dedicated to their own awakening.

This ongoing group is offered to you in case you have the courage, the inspiration, the love & care to be able to let go of your personality preferences and open to being, the vast nothing & everything. There can be a subtle & refined embodiment of essence, through which we humans are lived as the extraordinariness of the ordinary, the vulnerability that is our greatness, the mystery where nothing is known or certain and yet life is infinitely creative and rich. This is the only trustworthy foundation for conscious relating & lovemaking which heals and enlightens your body & being.

As dismantling happens, you can receive the uplifting, deeply nourishing company & awesome power of our community of men and women – yoga instructors, business owners, caregivers, artists, healers, lovers, teachers, writers, mums, dads, explorers of life’s truths – & its gifts of authenticity, deep trust, accountability, presence, intimacy, support and transparency.

The course content is all – new and cutting edge, so this group is highly appropriate for anyone who has attended ongoing groups – the core of Secret Garden’s offering – before (the depth of awakeness just gets better & deeper) and for those drawn for the first time. It gives you the spine of spiritual community to support ongoing spiralling into conscious awake relating. The ongoing circle is beautiful, full of healing, love, truth, intimacy & celebration of the one life we have been given to enjoy. Creating this new course has been a tremendous labour of love, & will continue to be throughout its unfolding. I’m excited that I’ll soon be sharing this life-changing work with committed people – I hope, for you, that you choose to be part of it.

It is richly rewarding to be with those where the level of shared trust is so deep that the breakthroughs & openings can be far reaching, and a privilege to see what happens for people on a ground way beyond where they can go with most social & professional contacts, when they are willing to trust the intelligence of the depths, without agenda. Being with those who come to prioritise the integral unity of body & spirit, who respect the circle’s profoundly healing call for balance between individual needs & journeys unfolding, who love the surrender to male & female aliveness, love nature, clarity, the rhythms of simple pleasure, lots of belly laughter, deep exploration, silence, stillness, is – simply – joy.

If you decide to join me on this adventure, I so look forward to sharing this deep immersion with you. Join us & experience the repeated re-activation that you need to live a life of freedom, joy & illumination

With endless Love,

Joy Hicklin-Bailey

Our Western culture’s emphasis on independent individualism often leads to a forgetting or rejection of the fact that mastery exists, that transmission is the surest way to waking up and that you have the potential to be forever positively influenced by another human being. Joy’s deep pleasure is to work with those who truly value ‘the ordinary mystic’s work’ of awakening, integration & embodied realisation.

‘There is only wholly unconditional Love….Under what is, every thought, every feeling, every circumstance, however challenging, there is Love. Is – ness is Love – no-thing, everything – unfolding’ Joy Hicklin-Bailey

You won’t find such profound & real exploration into your human nature, & tender pointing to that which is beyond words, anywhere else.

This group will fill fast so book now – Excellent value, world-class facilitation. We aim to give you exceptional gifts now & also profound results which last for your lifetime. This is a wonderful present for your loved one or yourself! And you can receive couple/friend discounts too.

If you join this circle now, you can just catch the early booking discount & 4 bonuses

How will you Benefit?

Liberation and being cannot be ‘taught’. A powerful transmission of it is received in this Circle, no matter what appears to be happening.

Being is every-thing…and no-thing…from deeper realisation of this, Joyful Loving becomes possible

Talking about benefits for a group like this is a total paradox (it all is of course)

This group will bring sustained, consistent access to transmission of freedom during & between modules, so ‘you’ can take your embodied realisation of awakeness to a whole new level. Joy is an awakener. The contraction & separation of the separate self can lose its tight grip, on a cellular level. Let go into love, the essence of life, the oneness, its wonder & beauty, can be simply ever apparent. An opening to the vastness of being, beyond & in all appearance, can be yours.

So the Joyful Loving Training is about everything – there is literally no aspect of your conscious and unconscious spiritual, intellectual, emotional or physical life that it cannot affect, since Being underpins all. Having said this, the emphasis is very much on enhancing all aspects of your relating life. The changes below are all possible for you.

  • If you take your place in this Joyful Loving ongoing group you will realise a profound affirmation & expanded celebration of your human nature. Grow consciousness, compassion, integrity, strength. Enjoy tenderness, innocence & joy.

Transform Your Intimate Relationships 

  • Experience the healing potential of the alchemical dance between man & woman outside of you, & the blossoming marriage of masculine & feminine inside of you. Freefall into the lived truth of the oneness beyond these polarities
  • In the men’s & womens’s circles, create a deep friendship with your own sex & be nourished by their support & celebration of the man you are, the woman you are
  • See your partner with new eyes in every interaction. Rekindle passion & respect in your close relating. Suffering & conflict in relating with all others, & between inner masculine & feminine, is replaced by mutual respect, harmony & joy
  • Acknowledge & enjoy your desire for connection & conscious touch. Live your energy with care, stay true to what is, at your deepest
  • Find fluidity of emotional flow in all you feel, natural sensitivity, power & innocence, your authentic voice, so your body, feelings & being are an instrument for life to play
  • With increased sensuality, depth of feeling and open hearted acceptance of how life touches you now, you are more available for those you partner, befriend, parent or offer service to
  • You learn respectful, effective communication, the free-ing power of vulnerable honesty and expressing your heart’s truth without blame or reactivity. You let go of making another responsible for your fears, commitment phobia or self-judgements. Learn evolutionary partnership.
  • How will you benefit?
    Realise deeply the freedom & consciousness to say & mean no or yes. Express your heart’s truth without blame or reactivity
    Learn fluidity of emotional expression, your body, feelings & being an instrument for life to play. There will be lots of laughter!
    See your limiting patterns, such as withdrawal, self-sacrifice, numbness, rescuing, control clearly – & find creative ways to return to relating with unconditionality
    Realise on a cellular level that sexual energy & spirit are one
    Realise your own pool of joy & true happiness & love in being you
    Be confident in your capacity to give love & pleasure
    Rekindle passion & respect in your close relating
    Read moreWhat will you experience, what will you learn?
    You will learn true, effective communication, the power of vulnerable honesty, friendship with ‘the other’.You will learn deeply to enjoy your desire for intimate contact, in all its moods, to receive deep pleasure & love, to know & honour your choices or boundaries in any situation.You will learn all you need to truly make Love, in your lovemaking.Your own awakening is the gift of every struggle you ever thought you had in relating – you will learn howNurture an aliveness & energetic sensitivity you have never experienced beforeRead more

Relate without losing you

  • Gain clarity and care about who you are & what you need and choose in relation to others & how to stay with your own simple beingness as well as staying open & available to other, seeing & befriending all that gets in the way of that. Embrace the risks of intimacy.
  • See through & dissolve blindspots & unhelpful habitual behaviours—and love others in their own wounds & blind spots
  • Grow a capacity to stay centred when your wounds are triggered, learn how to respectfully navigate unmet needs & conflict, & disentangle the far past from the present in your relating
  • Realise deeply the freedom & consciousness to say no when you mean no, & yes when you mean yes, with love & to make, keep & renegotiate clear agreements that nourish all involved

Unconditional Love

  • Move towards unconditional friendship with all the colours of aliveness in the circle, in self & with ‘the other’, find or re-discover your natural capacity to give & receive love, without agenda
  • Awaken to limitless, unconditional Heart consciousness. It has no agenda. No demand. It is endlessly fulfilled. Human beings know they can live this way with each other – here is a rare opportunity to find the edges & resistances, love anyway, melt, surrender
  • Wake up to beauty, connection & love; expect miracles, aliveness, wholeness
  • You will move back into ordinary life awake, grounded, nourished and reconnected with soul.

Release Your Limiting Patterns

  • See yours clearly & release them. Neediness, withdrawal, punishment dissolve. Self-sacrifice, numbness, and rescuing dissipate. Find creative ways to return to ease, happiness and unconditionality
  • Judgements are replaced by gratitude, guilt is transformed into inspiration & possibility; fear becomes excitement; pride becomes humility; impatience becomes kindly allowing; ugliness or disgust becomes grace, wounds become resources; struggle and depression is a wake up call; longing is replaced by presence; cynicism and cruelty become care and respect; denial becomes honesty; repression transmutes into power; alienation becomes connection; frustration becomes playfulness; projection becomes compassion; control melts into heart opening
  • Understand and integrate the recognisable stages of change that are happening in your own being human, as you burn through any confusion about spiritual life & awakenings happen. Access bliss, freedom & love usually considered to be available only to Eastern mystics.

Developing skills for the art of living you

  • Strengthen the character qualities of humility, generosity, and patience that make life ‘work’. Crucially, this work does not increase or reinforce the ego’s sense of identity, pride & control which is a major problem with the ‘spiritual marketplace’ & new age healings & teachings. To live your true nature as being, a letting go of limits & dismantling of conditioned illusion is necessary, rather than a building up. It is counter intuitive that it is this that allows the river of life to flow clean, healthy & abundant.
  • You restore organic connection with your nature, child spirit & heart.
  • You have a sense of response-ability for your life, a clear overview of your life as a whole now, the clean instinctual gifts of each phase of life, a knowing of life’s preciousness & en-joy-ment of your nature as man or woman.
  • You will notice real, measurable benefits in all of the areas that matter to you, such as health, family, conscious parenting, creativity, work, social skills, inner ease & above all in your relating life & embodied spiritual realisation.
  • Find out how to avoid the big mistakes that, like most people, you can make with your feeling life & life force that can cause unseen, chronic harm to your health, your relationships & even your finances
  • Because this training affects your whole energy field, you will empower your natural gifts & gain a massive boost in creativity or in motivation & success at work. Your financial abundance, professional service and contribution will improve. Responsibilities become fuel for your awakening. Mysteriously, you will find that you become more & more effective in being whoever you choose in life
  • If you are a professional who is already working as a therapist, teacher, healer, or seminar leader, or if you are starting to look for your avenue of contribution, this training deepens your offering to those you serve, clarifies your purpose, potential & gifts. You will learn much about holding a strong clear safe space for transformation. It supports would-be practitioners of this extraordinary work.

Healing your past

  • Discover how to co-operate with the enormous potential for healing, rejuvenation & evolutionary opportunity, built into the intelligence of the subtle energy body & the chakras
  • Find support for, mark & celebrate a transition in your life. Create harmonious balance in a life of purpose and belonging. Experience deep surrender to circumstances, people and places, to what is.
  • Profound healing of parental & ancestral wounding so you can be comfortable in your own skin & so your current relating is free of past limits & wounds. Stories you have lived of ‘not good enough’, recent life sorrows, losses and frustrations that might be part of your being human, & the life you are wishing to co-create now, are embraced with gratitude. Self-love expands.
  • Deep revitalisation comes. You rediscover the magic, the aliveness, the delight of your being

Live in your body

  • Transmute daily stress into life force, resilience & vitality.
  • Enjoy your primal animal aliveness and power & sensual pleasure. Reclaim the life force which is your birthright and let it be rocket fuel for finer energies of expanded consciousness
  • Love making becomes fully conscious and light-filled

Live beyond separation and time

  • In opening to the mystery of full human beingness, the not knowing of presence arises. Profound intuitive wisdom emerges. Beyond your personality limitations is the freedom & love that is & always has been, beyond the small you
  • Separation dissolves &  profound healing of limited perspectives happens; you can touch the deepest mysteries of existence, beyond life’s normal boundaries. A spirit of dynamic enquiry becomes natural.
  • Release resistances, stories & hurts. Presence replaces separation patterns, longings and striving.
  • You learn you are not a problem to solve, you have no problems, that the past is only as real as you demand it to be, you do not have to be run by your wounding & that Love heals the past, unwanted emotional responses, ‘issues’ and problems, so you get less entangled in new ones that arise.

truly brilliant, almost too mindbogglingly simple to be believed! the best work I have come across. And Joy is the best communicator ever! …Clearly I can’t stop now…. living my life with that sort of sparkle and pleasure is something I did not imagine was possible… was beginning to doubt. And then this ~ Philip Batchelor, Stroud

This group is for you if…

If you value love, truth, silent awareness that embraces all, freedom, intimacy, the joy in being…if you value the rare accountability, vibrancy, depth & tenderness of authentic, awake, committed community – this group is for you – join us! How to Book

If you love to live your wild soul, be broken open by another’s vulnerability, play, love to say what you may never have dared, enjoy good company, love to be surprised, to find your edge, to celebrate being you.

If you are living less than the full passion & aliveness that you could be because of the roles you play, the routines, conventions & habits that restrict, if you spend too much time lost in your head and in virtual realities, save your one precious life!

Secret Garden is at the leading edge of our evolving humanity, for you if you are wishing for nourishment, for connection, for your power. Maybe you choose tender space to heal your heart, for support in transition or to enquire about a question about life, relating or spiritual awakening.

If you long…

  • You wish to grow your heart big enough to love all that is in others, yourself & life
  • Beingness is what really matters to you & wish for powerful transmission to dismantle what is in the way of that in the dance of relating
  • You sense the potency of awakened masculine & feminine, its creative, dynamic aliveness, beauty, purpose, passion & joy
  • You wish to be with others in freedom, joy, pleasure & the ease of ‘You are me’
  • You are enquiring into the core questions of being human
  • You wish to never stop learning & expanding into what is simple, ordinary and natural
  • You have had glimpses beyond the veil of the joy & wonder & long to fully embody beingness

If you are struggling at times…

  • You feel disconnected, know you could communicate more effectively & miss the inspiration you used to have or that you long to have
  • Your relationship with your own body is less than kind or you feel unattractive sometimes
  • Your past family or love relationships have left you feeling burned or disappointed. You feel a need to protect your heart & are slow to trust
  • You feel emotionally blocked or stuck, or inadequate or play small out of fear of others’ judgements
  • You are quick to judge others & also yourself
  • You regret past choices or actions
  • You’ve never felt really fulfilled & long for more clarity, pleasure & joy in life
  • You know you resist life’s inevitable intensity & weigh yourself down trying not to rock the boat. You intend to live co-empowerment rather than co-dependency
  • You know you are not the body, your feelings, your own ‘map of the world’, yet don’t know how to break through the isolation & fear that is inevitable for the separate self
  • You sense fear & old patterns hold you back from taking action & wish for freedom of choice instead

If you are single or in relationship

  • You are single & drawn to world-class transformational work
  • You are with a partner & plan to attend together to enhance your individual & shared happiness
  • You are in a committed partnership & wish to be in your own transformational space for a while

It doesn’t matter whether you’ve completed many trainings or whether you are just getting started in Secret Garden– you’ll learn how to take your embodied realisation of freedom & your life skills & wisdom deeper….. & live who you are even more effectively and on a grander scale!

Participants of past ongoing groups have experienced openings, healings, breakthroughs they had no idea were possible & had never touched in other spiritual, tantric & transformational groups.

  • How free are you of limiting projections about life & others?
  • How open, vulnerable, not knowing & tender are you able to be?
  • How clearly do you communicate your needs, what is of value to you?
  • How present & vibrant are you in your body?
  • Have you touched the essence of who you are & wish to live that in all ways?
  • How fully do you live the strong, clear, purposeful man you are or the radiant, powerful woman you are?
  • Are you in friendship with your energy in all its colours? How freely does your life force flow?

Your own waking up to the everything & nothing of life’s wholeness is the gift of every limit to love, struggle or unmet longing you ever thought you had in your relating life – this group invites you to discover how you discover & embody this. Are you ready, are you willing, to embrace all that is in life & love?

What if you come to embody the realisation that all you long for, all you seek in life & others, is yours already?

All you have to know about yourself is that you are willing to keep being here for the entire journey, that you are willing to be total about opening & befriending all that you are.

An extraordinary adventure in self-realization. Life and love becomes a natural unfolding & ideology about how it should be falls away. If any of this resonates, book your place here

liberating, transforming, rejuvenating, beautiful and revelatory for me. …. so relevant and transformative on many levels in your everyday life and in your perception of your experience and existence….Words can’t do it! I hope that you feel the gratitude, amazement and love I feel for you  ~  Susan S., London

x…x …and Life’s gifts

The natural reality beyond the mind is not of past or future, there is only unconditional freedom, always. Yet, to live embodied natural beingness, there must be a willingness to see the lies, the false identity that has driven ‘your’ life. How do you betray your nature? Trickiness loses its hold when clearly seen in an illumined field. The accountability and care of circle helps you come to love the one who wants to evade, escape this, and can love you in the clear seeing and witnessing of what is ready to die. This is how ‘you’ take full responsibility for your life and learn to celebrate.

Deeper than the personality are archetypal energies – masculine and feminine energies, animus, anima, king, queen, lover, warrior, magician, and more. These must be clearly recognised too. This journey will vividly facilitate this crucial Jungian work, and allow all your sabotaging unconscious identification with them, which distorts natural balance and relating happiness, to be released. Vital life force can increase easily then.

Healing is yours, in full allowing of pain. Redemption is yours in for giving those who have hurt you. This being is the miracle. We must all birth into dualism and go through a period of conditioning into apparently limited, less than fully fulfilled humanity, to a greater or lesser degree. All experiences in later life that you might consider traumatic are always, also, a re-stimulation of earlier traumas, with parents and/or others. Unless you resolve these earlier events you cannot truly heal your current relationship life. In this training, you will access unconscious material from such experiences in a safely held way to enable deep healing work, around male and female, being nurtured, experiencing bodily pleasure, and more. Any unfinished business and apparent obstacle arising out of this can be resolved so you may live free of any limiting effects and enjoy a rich maturation appropriate to your current life phase and chosen relating life.

The miracle of the body – Sensitivity to sensation-al life is invited. Conscious co-operation with kundalini, the surging life force which brings limits to the surface of awareness safely so they can be cleared, ignites and develops. True creativity is unleashed. Male-female polarity is a delight, not a problem. Ultimately, the inner marriage of masculine and feminine is possible.

Intimacy – Deepen connection. There is so much more power in union, true making of love through the physical, conscious community and synthesis than in individuality. Grow your transparency in heart truth, learn how loving ‘the other’ is a vital key to self-love. Acknowledge and fully embrace both your aloneness and your need to belong. Evolutionary partnership. Be enriched by the intimacy of spiritual friendship. Enjoy your boundaries. Share nourishing enlivenment in conscious touch.

Vulnerable, undefended being allows the possibility of direct experience of what is. The simple, easily missed or forgotten secret!

What if every single thought or feeling or experience or story were simply an invitation to love? Beyond judgement, opinion or resistance….what if there can be a choice whether to accept that invitation or not..a conscious no or yes…until there is no choice, and love is all, all is love.

The freedom dance of Being

Beyond experiences, beyond what is apparently happening, beyond emotions & judgements, is space, no-thing, vastness, endlessly expressing what is. The unconditional receiver of all the stories, is Love that allows everything to be exactly as it is, and dissolves all problems. ‘You’ are that boundless freedom.

Here’s what you can do…

This ongoing group is nothing to do with self-improvement or fixing anyone. It is about bringing consciousness into being and relating. Profound opening to all that is, difficult or easy, beautiful or ugly, is key. Then Nature flowers in the human body, free of conditioning. Realisation that ‘you’ are Life itself, there is no separation and that Love is the only ‘solution’ must then be stabilised in embodiment of awakeness. Separately, you can only ‘make yourself available’ for the freedom that is. As all that was believed in or felt collapses, a new possibility may – or not – emerge, of unification, of liberation into being. The mind cannot conceive that waking up and absolute freedom are not connected in any way. Secret Garden makes a clear distinction between these in this -in all – circles.

What You Say

After 25 years of searching, I had given up thinking this taste of truth was possible. Even though aspects of my story go on, it makes me laugh now!  ~  Suzanne Bond, Bristol

I have spent years now working with Joy, Secret Garden, Circles, (my wife and child), family and friends, knowing that I could perhaps move towards freedom by removing the outer layers I have created. Through this experience, I have finally seen my arrogance in judging that I might know anything about another when I don’t know the first thing about myself. This has felt so freeing, I now observe how I move in and out of well established patterns with an ever thinner disguise on. I used to say that this circle work saved my life but I now see it is my life. If there is more to do then I’m willing to do it. I want to live as true and in flow with life as I can and I feel that joining the circle is where I dread and what I love ~ Scott, Bristol

As so often before you know how to say right kind & loving words. You are so real & human…I love your woman’s warm wisdom. You have a gift to make the other, me, to feel heard, that is a blessing. I ‘feel’ that you know what I try to share & where my words might fail you read with your heart. You have healing, reassuring & calming influence on me. I feel you have much going on & you still gave me time, your soft feminine warm heart that you are  ~  Heidi Ovarassi, London

An ability to facilitate and hold a sacred space for areas of intimate relating and deep personal development that is rarely, if ever, offered elsewhere. Loved the feeling of safety and being held by the circle; the sense of wholeness felt by relating in a way, and with a depth, that is rarely possible in the usual course of living. A deep feeling of mutual trust, and the formation of close bonds within the circle. Offering the encouragement to step outside normal boundaries, thus facilitating change that might not otherwise have happened  Graham V., Bath

Secret Garden work is essential in my life as an ongoing thing…such quality I haven’t found anywhere else….You are so, so vigilant about constantly taking away from us our goals & ideals of becoming perfect or good & therefore deserving & loveable person we long to be (& already are!). I realised that I don’t expect perfection from myself anymore & therefore not from others, so now I don’t get disappointed or offended easily so I also don’t feel ‘tangled up in others’ in that exhausting way  ~  Surahbhi McMellahn, Ashburton

 I feel that I have gained so much through you and Secret Garden work. I am eternally grateful for what you have shared with us; it is incredible to see where I was and where I am now. I will definitely continue on this journey and build on the wonderful learnings  ~ Tom Lowery, Stroud

Precious jewels…I was smiling at the magnificence of it all, delivered in such a humble, ordinary way!  ~  Rachel Irvine-Fortescue, Minchinhampton

Joy’s tenderness and presence helps you to explore your vulnerability with love and benefit from relief (of) resistance and pain and…dismantling illusions ~ Alicia Ortiz, Andorra

If you are drawn, trust the call of your soul. Book your place in this circle here

If you have real questions, get answers here Your Questions Answered by Joy

We recognise that you will have your own unique enquiry about this group & how it might relate to your life. We encourage you to reach out & allow us to support you in finding clarity about whether or not this is right for you. Call 01452 813241 or email if you have other questions.

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Who will journey with you?

Those drawn to this Secret Garden work have maturity and self-responsibility, and rich life experience.

You will meet men and women from every walk of life, businessmen and women, musicians, health workers, artists, coaches and trainers, doctors, actors, body workers, lawyers, parents, writers, careworkers, facilitators, counsellors, and much more, and often from several countries.

Most, young or older, will have already looked deeply into life and meditative practice. You are courageous explorers stepping out beyond what is known.

It is a wonderful gift, taking time out to hang out with people who love depth and authenticity and the freedom of being. The support, nourishment and confidence of being loved in all you are is priceless. Any doubt or uncertainty about valuing what your heart knows dissolves.

How do you participate?

How you participate is totally up to you as long as you are respectful of all.

Being brings you a series of carefully guided encounters with inevitable phases of life, archetypal energies, and the free flow of your feelings, longings and sensitivities.

A safely held exploration, this is a tender & nurturing environment in which your vulnerability, privacy & confidentiality are protected at all times. (Photography and video is only used with those who have consented).

You are supported throughout in being in the structures & experiences in the way that feels true to you. All chosen boundaries in any presenting situation are honoured & respected. No physical contact is necessary unless chosen. You are safe & free to explore & find your freedom to be you, in love.

This ongoing circle gives you…

There is nothing as potent for your life as the magic of a Secret Garden ongoing group… unprecedented levels of intimacy, trust and insights. Courage and friendship evolve when you know you are together over time; the incredible adventures are irreplaceable. Because we can work at the depth where life transforming change can happen, and because there is the safety of close bonding over a sustained period, you can open and resolve your deepest, core issues. Deep personal awakenings, insights, opening, healing and life-transformation are optimized for every participant and you can be secure in your sense of belonging and value.

There is a constant bridge with your everyday life, because the modules are well spread out, allowing integration, yet there is ongoing contact, if desired, with the online forum. We create a sangha, spiritual community, free of ideology about how life should be, ‘you’ are simply a natural unfolding process. This is an all-new experiment in conscious evolution.

As each module includes a weekend, time taken off work is limited to what is practical, allowing this journey to fit in easily with other committments. There is space in between each module, and ongoing support via private sessions is available in addition to the online forum, to thoroughly integrate the learnings and awakenings into your ordinary life. The structure will be intensive enough to generate the input and energy you need, subtle enough to convey the depths of awakening, and yet also accommodating the realities of your busy lives.

Create a regular retreat where you root in transmission of natural reality and are inspired to wake up from the dream of conditioned mind, cutting through layers of what isn’t true or essential, into who or what you are in the moment. Directly experience your true nature. Resolution of all dualities and suffering is possible.

Places are available for those who can commit to the whole journey and are strictly limited.

 Being – Your Questions & Joy’s Responses

 What do you need to know to get clear if this course is right for you? If you’re on the fence, wondering whether to jump into this gorgeous circle (& yes! there are many riches on the other side) here’s Joy’s responses to questions she’s been asked most, to help you decide & book your place.

I’m keen but I’m really busy. How much time do I need for this?

It’s high value in Secret Garden that awakening work is integrated into your ordinary life. 12 of the training days are at weekends & 3 more are Bank holidays, so that’s only 9 weekdays needed over 2 years. It’s recommended you do at least 15 minutes home practice each week – but you can always take a break & start up again when you have the time. The energy of the circle holds you in your life, whatever is going on.

Is it worth the investment?

The financial investment may initially seem high, but the facilitation costs are deliberately kept on the low side, there is an instalment option, & catering costs and any desired accommodation can be paid for later, in 2 stages. I’ve seen crazy prices for courses not as good as this-only 1 module costing £9000+ with a less experienced, less able facilitator. This makes Being look excellent value especially with discounts &/or bonuses. This gives you full on support for two years.

And what is the price of your life not working well? Financially & in terms of potentially broken families, holdbacks in career etc?

What is the cost to you in lost fulfilment, unrealised intelligence, poor choices & yes a less expanded life & income – of your playing a smaller game in your life than you could?

I did a calculation that amazed me. When I am with a group you have pretty much total access to me. I don’t hide behind a stage or hordes of assistants. A module is around 37 hours. 6 modules mean that’s 222 hours of group time. For a private one to one session I charge £79 per hour. So if you join this group you receive direct access to me that would 1 to 1 cost £17,538! Expertise always speeds up effective results and investing in your transformation is the best you can make. No one can take your gains away, they can’t be lost. And this ongoing work reaps rich, practical rewards in your outer life too.

Does this approach really ‘work’?

YES! -many men & women have experienced this. Even I have been surprised by the total passion & moving transformational stories in the feedback I receive. Awakening work is not suitable for you if you feel or believe for whatever good reason you must stay in your present circumstances and mindset. Or if you feel and believe that inner transformation does not work –then it won’t.The impact of this work does, of course, depend on your willingness to follow the programme with totality & commit to taking actions aligned with new insights gathered & the openings you experience during the training – in your everyday, ordinary life. I share testimonials to reassure you that this is REAL, authentic & groundbreaking, cutting edge exploration, that WILL BENEFIT YOU, in your ordinary life

I feel really nervous, resistant & afraid of doing this course. Does that mean I shouldn’t do it? I’m not sure I’m ready…

Fear is the most common feeling – along with excitement – around real, ongoing transformational work. We’ve had so many negative messages around living awake and being large, living an expanded life. Healing into wholeness, peeling away trance and denial and repression, is essential rocket fuel for happiness & for your evolutionary transformational process. It’s all about baby steps… incremental progress with safe holding and clear reflection adds up to extraordinary, life-changing gain. When I’m facilitating groups around the world about ‘your’ evolutionary awakening, it’s often assumed that there is one glamorous answer or event in life that solves everything. There isn’t. Your belief in that will keep you stuck. You simply need high quality, ongoing reflection, self-honesty, loving, awake community so you get loved just as you are & safe space – which you get in Secret Garden ongoing groups – so you can risk going beyond your comfort zone. Come because you have asked this question and because you feel fear. Learning to befriend your fears is one of the treasures offered by every Secret Garden workshop. You say you aren’t sure whether you are ready, and that is an understandable feeling, nobody ever really is ready for transformation. The personality clings to what is known even when it is becoming too small. It really is best to trust your wish to come, especially if you tend to talk yourself out of experiences that address your deep longings.

My life is already great, what can this course do for me?

Embodied awakening work and spiritual practice is like yoga: the more you do it, the deeper and lighter you go. Some benefits are better health, awakening fluid energetic flow in the chakra energetics and creating an abundance of creative life opportunities.

How much of your Most Intimate message is in this course?

This is a profound transmission. It is not The Most Intimate, though it contains some discrete sessions of that, because Being is a course which necessarily addresses the (only apparent) claimed, separate identity and invites an opening beyond that. Its hidden context, its ground, is always The Most Intimate.

In the story, awakenings to and realisation of essence happen to people. Being ongoing facilitates and speeds that. The Most Intimate is something different!

Being ongoing group is a comprehensive, synthesised way to give you the awakening tools and archetypal depth to free the body and being of old conditioning & create insights and openings that are essential to a vibrant, healthy, happy life. It will make any spiritual practice much deeper & more immediate. I’m an AWAKENER & have worked in grounded liberation in the realm of deep transformation and life’s invitation to freedom, for over 20 years. I’m passionate about giving you the wake up calls, the love, the tools & the deep openings to create the life you know somewhere is possible, the life you long for. To pretend you are not longing for your ultimate freedom or can put other things first does you a disservice. So this course goes very deep into that arena, but Secret Garden exploration is grounded in ordinariness. It isn’t about a hyped up ‘experience’ just in the workshop.

What about Couples?

You may have a partner who doesn’t share your passion for truth but supports your own lone exploration, because it increases the love you share; you may be a couple who know you need to connect deeply in held space in order to break through habitual ways of seeing, conflicts & struggles, together. Or maybe you are a couple keen to serve each other deeply into spiritual awakening. It’s all welcome, including dynamics between you – the field looks after every outcome you bring. This group is focused on your OWN AWAKENING & how that relates to the dream you create outside of you. You becoming more alive, while experiencing more self-worth & love will help your relationship so much. We intend to dive deep into everything you need to let go of & learn in order to be able to live together with absolute pristine consciousness. Sweet surrender!

I’m single – will this course work for me? And can I come without a partner?

Yes! All Secret Garden workshops are suitable for both singles and couples. You can also come with a friend who is acting as ‘your partner’ for the duration of the workshop, if you like but it isnt necessary to do that. The entire course is designed to work for you man or woman, either alone or with a partner, or for those who are in relationship but attend alone. And if you want a partner in your life, you are far more likely to attract the right one for you during or after this training! It’s likely if you are drawn to Secret Garden that you are looking to deepen your realisation of beingness, above all-and there, there are no relationships!

What degree of intimacy is expected between participants in your ongoing work? Do I have to remove my clothes or be intimate with people I don’t choose to be that way with?

It’s entirely up to you how close the contact with others is that you choose. You will always be invited to find your own true way, and sense for yourself how far you want to open, what feels good and right for you. Your own chosen boundaries will always be respected. The structured explorations, led by me & Tim, are intended to invite exploration at depth, foundational, essence-ial to a an awakened, true life for you as man or woman. This course invites you safely and carefully into the Daoist and Tantric lovemaking practices and we are a couple who have a joint 40+ years of living that. You can participate in the whole training fully clothed and without any physical contact, if you wish. You can still be fully engaged and learning, healing and opening so much. This is, ultimately, a profound transmission of liberation and unconditional Love. Nevertheless, conscious relating and sexuality will be brought as a theme because friendship with these is crucial if your life force is to flow. Every choice is always yours.

Is this safely held space? Will my boundaries be respected? Can I change them if I need or want to?

Please be assured that your boundaries are always sacrosanct, and they will always be respected. Your boundaries are likely to be different in each encounter and structure. Realising clarity about boundaries in any situation and learning to communicate them is a very important aspect of this Secret Garden (and life!) and consciousness of them and the capacity and willingness to communicate them is crucial in a life well-lived.

Whatever your lifestyle choices, relating is something that touches you, all of us, through friends, family, colleagues and is welcome material in the circle. Any sexual and gender orientation is welcome.

How will this course compare with other trainings?

Most ‘transformational’ work and teachings in the new age and spiritual marketplace are superficial & give people a ‘high’ experience which is then not grounded. Much so-called healing and ‘awakening’ work, including mis-named non duality teaching that is available, is also very misguided, playing to people’s hope and pride and building up and reinforcing the identity rather than assisting in dismantling it. Nor does it assist people in the ruthless dismantling & integration required for true healing & wholeness. This is not a course that will appeal to ‘new-age seekers’. I’m passionate about working with those who are sincerely committed to awakeness and consciousness.

Why would I want to listen to others or relate to a whole group?

Being in the circle with totality is a meditation. Everything shared touches you in some way. Everything is your own invitation to dive deeper & be in love with existence, with life as it is. Let the life of the circle grow your heart wide open.

And in turn you receive the power of the holding of a circle of committed fellow travellers. We need to be witnessed in our human beingness in order for pain to dissolve into the joy that always is, always was & ever shall be.

The best way to find out what’s in the way of love and awakeness is to look inside with total self-honesty. The apparent others outside of you reliably point to what asks for love and attention. The circle is your perfect mirror. it becomes your perfect lover.

Shouldn’t I just wait until next time? Or try to meditate more at home?

Secret Garden gives you ongoing conscious community, as well as profound inner journeying. Healing is more powerful when experienced in a group. Wounds more often appear to be ’caused’ by others. So it is through others that we deeply heal mis-trust, separation, conflict. It is much safer to seem ‘sorted’, ‘together’ and to know who one is at a personality level, but that is all made up! When light & love increase, old pain can surface or strong emotions about unresolved current situations WILL come up yet easily dissolve if you are ready. As you move towards freedom & joy, it is INEVITABLE that in intimate relating such as in the circle, you will contact any unresolved shame, emptiness, hatred & not good enough-ness. Even though the stories of our pain are different, pain itself is collective & requires others’ mirroring, sometimes witnessing if you choose, and, above all, love to allow us to dissolve past fully. This is easier than you may think but requires great compassion from friends, the spiritual community you create in the circles, and great authenticity and self-honesty. Then, you have to integrate the learnings & TAKE ACTION, take small risks, be self-honest in ordinary life.

I don’t know how to do this-I always get it wrong & things don’t change

You are a human being. Evolution is natural & inbuilt. Please know that more than the negative messages you have been told or the limits you’ve taken on. I will guide you, answer your questions, above all love you, every step. The mind will never acknowledge gains and wishes to preserve the status quo, even if it’s your smallness. It will diminish the significance of breakthroughs in order to maintain its conditioned grip, because it feels ‘safer’. Co-operate with nature’s impulses & your suffering will decrease, ease & happiness will increase, Let others love you until self-love grows, sweetly & organically, self-love is the primary way we heal & align with life so that all else just gets so easy. Past patterning always get reflected back in your life precisely, until you find a guide to help you do the work of unpicking your limited map of reality. The mind plays many tricks along the way of the awakening journey and this training helps you see them, love them and let them go for good. I can’t help you if you refuse the help that is available; reach for the support for your freedom.

I have done other tantra workshops/I have participated in Joyful Loving before – is this suitable for me?

This training and its energetics is continuously evolving and the format and content will be all-new. It has always been significant and valuable for every participant, and in many different ways – regardless of previous tantric experience or none of it. It is for you if you are seeking something richer, healthier, wiser and deeper than was offered by the sexual climate and attitudes towards man-woman and relating in which you were brought up. It is appropriate for everyone who comes with an openness to participating – in their own way – in an experience involving sensual and possibly erotic structures. People with previous experience of tantra work find a new depth and unexpected realisations and liberating discoveries in this training.

Perhaps it will hurt too much or rock the boat to start looking deeper & facing myself? Can’t cope with the intensity.

It hurts a lot more not to! Others sense your pain even if you think you keep everything ‘together’. And unresolvednes & resistance will get mirrored back to you in your life in all sorts of unpredicted ways. Life is intense! especially if you dont have conscious support & some education about what helps you surf the waves. Resistance to life & living it totally weighs your life & being down.

I’ve never felt really fulfilled in love before – can this course help?

Yes, even though this is not specifically a course about relating, the theme will no doubt be brought to our circle by participants, and there will be one half of two of the modules that specifically focus on relating. Simply through the level of trust and friendship that develops between all participants, old patterns of separation dissolve.

I want to do this course, but I feel I may or will have to share with you something that I think is too strange or difficult to be heard

Nothing is too strange or difficult, if your ultimate intention is integration & love. Holding onto something all by yourself is lonely, stressful & unnecessary, you are welcome into the circle & to share whatever you need to share so that you can embrace this journey. Your honesty is others’ opportunity – to open their hearts wide! And know that how you participate is up to you, always.

What can I expect will happen in this training?

You will be expertly and almost invisibly guided into structures and experiences which allow you to feel life and your being more deeply than ordinary life might allow. The training includes pair work, small and large group processes; solo inner explorations  guided by Joy; dynamic meditations; circle work which gives you the opportunity to engage with Joy; occasional dance sessions; and you can expect some surprises, as what happens is guided not only by carefully planned structures, but also by the present needs of the participants and the group energetic.

Am I too old / young to do this course?

No. Participants’ ages range from early twenties to seventies enrolled at the moment – awakeness and aliveness can arise at any age & whatever your age, nationality, walk of life, your uniqueness is warmly welcome.

I hope this helps you decide whether the course is right for you! We wish for you to make the right decision. Please email or call me if you aren’t sure about whether to join us.

Words can’t express the learnings I’ve had through you & the awakening that’s happened….the experience of life is so totally different from 18 months ago. I feel reborn, a different person. I’m more grateful than I can express ….. blissful … “I” was a swirling cloud of energy in a peaceful harmonious sea of perfection. (Yes I can’t find words to describe it!) Now I’m very peaceful about everything ~ Neal Thornton, Chiswick

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Join us…..This surrender to the pleasure in Being, to your feelings, intelligence, sensuality & child spirit in organic unison, enables the nectar of beauty, joy & soul in ‘your’ relating life

Will You Join Us?

This is your only chance to book at early booking prices! We encourage you to jump and take advantage of this great window of opportunity before all course fees must rise.

Comparable trainings of this quality are often offered at three times the price, with massive travel expenses.  So your time and financial investment for this high quality life changing course is small & excellent value relative to the massive benefits of this world-class facilitation.

Seize this opportunity, it will never come again, this way, or at this unique point in your life!

How much is exquisite expertise worth to you? How much is a loving, trustworthy guide – who has dedicated their whole life from childhood, to truth and love – worth to you?

How much is a clear mirror and mastery worth? How much is authentic, ongoing community, dedicated to intentional enquiry and consciousness, worth to you?

Please be aware that places are limited. A powerful, mature circle is gathering so don’t miss your chance to catch the early booking price– there won’t be another Being Training for several years (if offered again)

We aim to give you exceptional gifts now & also profound results which last for your lifetime.

This is a beautiful present for your loved one or yourself!

This group will fill fast so book now. Enrol & bring world-class facilitation & support into your life.

If you’re feeling a YES, trust that soul call – you can.

Aloha. All love (Whichever side of the fence you end up on..;)),

Joy Hicklin-Bailey

P.S Time to step up but you have to act now. This is your time. Join me now – I would love to be your awakening guide, to serve you to be the love you are so you can live an expanded life of beauty and joy.

You can do this – live the love you are. Book your place here

I have spent 15 years learning and reading about spiritual awakening, in these few days the truth of it unfolded for the first time. And life is so much better now! Thank you is inadequate ~ Sally Meadows, Guildford


Your profound work…how it allows and brings conscious light to areas of my relating I have struggled with for so many years, has and IS changing my life for the better! ❤️ ~ Melanie Howard-Dobson, Painswick

Celebrate the vibrant, energetic being you are, and enjoy consciousness and ease in your relating life……why wait?

About Joy

‘It’s.beautiful, this witnessing of those I sit with finding aliveness, the natural flow of feelings, and what is beyond, the power & peace of a clear seeing of what is, in their ordinary lives & in what arises in the circles & sessions I have the privilege of facilitating.

Secret Garden points towards your ‘journey’ of awakening into embodied realisation of non-duality, of one, not two, into that which is beyond words. Whatever is – in the appearance – happening, the separate self’s hijacking of pure experience loses its hold and natural reality may be revealed. This training will, wherever you are in your awakening journey and relating life, bring increased clarity, fluidity and happiness into your relating life.

Community, connection, presence, being, peace, intimacy, vulnerability, love, are beautiful gifts in the unfolding human story…. these are the qualities ‘I’ value and enjoy in the playshop of ‘my own’ life. My passion in Joyful Loving, Essence, Being and Joyful Living events events is an empowering of presence, awakeness, essence, from which comes natural power, joy, love and abundance. I love to see people shed the masks, armour & uniforms adopted in worldly activity or challenging relating, & come more & more to trust their nature, their deepest truth. That heals everything & then everything in the apparent story changes! Most of all, I love to share (in Most Intimate events) with those who are interested in exploring the natural reality of what is, unconditional love without cause, what cannot be sought, radiant being.

Since early childhood ‘I’ have experienced a series of spontaneous awakenings, in which the conditioned self dissolved, that have – in the apparent unfolding story that never was – lasted for longer & longer periods & radically transformed the experience of living on this beautiful planet into one of liberation, being.

The integration into ordinary life of this total surrender took many years. I only discuss this if asked – ‘spiritual’ experiences are simply that, experiences. What is, here, now, is ever changing & new – the stories are not the essence. In that ‘story’ that never was, I have been drawn to mystical & spiritual teachings since early childhood & I am very grateful to have worked with extraordinary teachers, indigenous & western. During this period, the energetic sense of a separate self completely & absolutely dissolved, leaving simply the wonder of what is.

Many trainings in healing and psychotherapeutic disciplines grounded what was ‘experienced’ & gave ways in which liberated being could be offered in a safely held way in this garden dedicated to the blossoming of human beingness. The ‘approach’ is a sensing, feeling, seeing & listening to all that is apparently happening in the moment yet the mystery brings intuitive guidance. The intelligence of life plays immaculately and sometimes surprisingly. Silence & non-doing, rather than controlling what is happening with an agenda, allows apparent healing, magical unfolding & revelation of the wholeness beyond the appearance of form, identity and role, the wondrous gift of life itself.

For over 20 years, there has been profound pleasure in and great gratitude for Secret Garden’s transformational weekend, day, week-long retreats, ongoing trainings & evening groups in Gloucestershire, Bristol, Bath, Somerset, Andalucia, Italy, the Greek islands & the Hawaiian islands, and one to one and couple sessions.‘

Take the Road less Travelled with Someone who knows the territory

Joy is currently writing a book with the working title “The Gateway to Being”

Joy Hicklin-Bailey Joy is such a world – class, profoundly effective facilitator that several internationally renowned teachers & coaches go to her confidentially to solve their life and love issues and go to her for supervision work.  Joy is a spiritual counsellor & an outstanding coach in the areas of natural happiness, intimate emotional and sexual relating, & professional development. Joy has been working with awakened embodiment coaching with individuals, couples and groups for over 20 years. In this group, Joy brings you her expertise in human dynamics and transformational evolution. She transmits the emergence of Self or beingness, for those who are drawn to wholeness and freedom. Joy’s clients come from all walks of life & include professionals, mothers, fathers, celebrities, farmers, artists, healers, & more. She works with immediacy, tenderness and utter clarity.

Joy is a qualified, practising Jungian psychotherapist, and the founding facilitator of Essence work and Joyful Loving work. She is a hypnotherapist, a Huna healer, an expert in ancient lineage work with ancestors and family (the source of constellations work), Time Line therapist, NLP Master Practitioner & Trainer, and astrological counsellor and a highly regarded business/executive coach & trainer at management & director level in organisations such as Centrica & Aviva, well-known charities & more.

Just imagine what openings participating in this circle might lead you to…..book your place now

Practical details you need to know – dates, times, venues

Module 1 Details

Venue: Central Stroud

Dates: Saturday, October 19-Tuesday, October 22

Times: Start at 10 30am Sat Close 3 30pm Tues

Accommodation: Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired

Module 2 Details

Venue: Central Stroud

Dates: Between early to end Feb, 2020

Times: Start at 11 am Sat dep 3 30pm Tues

Accommodation: Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired

Module 3 Details

Venue: Central Stroud

Dates: May bank holiday tbc, 2020

Times: Start at 10 30 am Sat dep 3 30pm Tues

Accommodation: Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired

Module 4 Details

Venue: Central Stroud

Dates: Late September or early October, 2020

Times: Start at 11 am Sat dep 3 30pm Tues

Accommodation: Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired

Module 5 Details

Venue: Near Stroud

Dates: Late December 2020-New Year, 2021

Times: TBC

Accommodation: Residential Fully Catered (fee due late autumn 2020). It is truly special to know that this circle will be sharing New Year 2020-21 together at a very beautiful residential venue, with delicious food, beautiful gardens and walks..all our needs looked after.

Module 6 Details

Venue: Central Stroud

Dates: Spring, likely Easter, 2021

Times: Start at 10 30am Sat dep 3 30pm Tues

Accommodation: Non-residential Catering to incl 2 lunches 2 suppers & refreshments. Lovely Bed & Breakfast (double, twin, single, camping) available if desired

The ongoing group comprises 6 x 4 day modules spread over about 20 months. Each module comprises 2 weekdays and a weekend so you only need 2 weekdays for each module away from work, or one at the bank holiday modules. In total you will use just 9 weekdays, yet receive all the in-depth transformation that only an ongoing course can give.

Exact dates for modules 2-6 will be confirmed later in 2017, once the group has gathered. Please email any already absolutely unmoveable dates to Joy’s office and these will be avoided if at all possible. Please diary the date windows given above and keep them clear once you have booked your place. This ensures you and all delegates can attend.

If future date information is essential info for you now-please ask by phone or email. Full commitment is important from a transformational, healing and growth perspective. If one day has to be missed unavoidably, then that is understood. This group will fill quickly, there are limited numbers and there has been a lot of interest through word of mouth already.