3 things you might look into to deepen intimacy now

I wrote an unedited version of this recently to the egroup of an ongoing group and realised it might resonate for some of you...All names have been changed. Some fundamental themes which are core to this Joyful loving exploration we are engaged in have arisen recently. For all of you it might be rich to…

Forgiveness, Ho’oponopono, loss & the human journey – and your awakening & freedom

'You', awake or unconscious, are Love & Freedom. You are not the thoughts or feelings. You are not the conditioned messages. You are Life itself. How do forgiveness and ho'oponopono help you realise this? Forgiving others, or yourself, for what you or they did, forgiving yourself for what you have lost, for what you don't or…

A testimonial from Rachel Irvine-Fortescue – Thank you Secret Garden

Thank You Secret Garden For years I have been working on and off with different teachers and therapists and healers, attending a variety of different workshops, but it is only recently that I have found something that makes total sense, and also really ‘works’. For me, Secret Garden workshops, retreats, trainings and one to one…

Big men are real enough to feel!

Recently I was working with a couple for the first time who, by virtue of their background in therapeutic work and facilitating tantra groups, could have been expected to deeply ‘know the territory’ when it came to relating and intimate communication. However assumptions are dangerous. Their marriage was in a very dire state. It was quickly clear…

How does consciousness in your lovemaking grow you?

The energetic exchange that happens in conscious lovemaking is a gateway to, and creates energy for, profound transformation. At this time, it is perhaps appropriate for spiritual values to be lived in ordinary life, to be celebrated in marriage or deep intimate meetings between lovers, rather than to live them only in monasteries and nunneries. The…

Woman’s rage! A Response from Joy to the bwati ongoing group egroup

I felt so happy to read this egroup letter. It is a momentous theme and several women in the egroup have been nudging at the same one. What has happened here though, (Woman’s name), is a completion of a very common (in wounded human beings) cycle. Often though that completion -which carries the seeds of…

Independence, resistance, and the ‘shield’s’ response to conflict

Joy talks to a woman who is finding work and relating difficult after a Secret Garden retreat Your armour of independence, wanting to do things your way, have your own way, is absolutely fine. Except that in this profound work of dismantling what isn’t truth and love, it has no place it can survive. The…

Lomi Lomi and Living a Soulful Life – what might happen for you on a lomi lomi retreat?

When you book a place on a LomiLomi retreat you may not consciously be intending to heal deep ancestral or childhood patterning in order to bring light into your cells and embody beingness in ordinary life.  You may be more focused on relaxation from work pressures, stress-relief, physical vitality or maintenance or relieving bodily discomfort. You…

Tenderness, courage and trust

To an e circle – I know some of you have faced strong challenges since we were together. Living your life aligned with love and truth – this first duality in being and human consciousness – is only possible if you live your natural courage and trust and tenderness. Your mind does not wish this,…