what is aloha?

Aloha is inner silence, empty of belief, story, judgement. Sunshine sings it,  rain falls through it, winds breathe it, trees are moved by it,  the earth rolls with it, children grow with it, the ocean churns it, bodies may love it into beingness. Aloha is Spirit beyond form, the soul of creation. Aloha is silence,…

Walking in the man-woman shadows

Joy talking with a circle and to a woman, after a challenge from a woman to one of the men. ‘Your rage against man and not getting what you thought you wanted is glorious -and not the truth. Your rage against man’s ability to let go more easily, his ability to be sexual without falling…

What is Joyful Loving about?

Joyful Loving courses are designed to deepen your experience of what true love is, and to help every relationship -with family, partners, children, colleagues, with your own self. be happier, kinder, more enjoyable, and more loving. You become wide open to love and create new love relationships You successfully pinpoint your own  major life-lessons in the…

What if this were a miracle wake up call?

Sometimes when I am in a circle or a session one to one with a client or in a couples session there can be sharings where there is an underlying assumption of ‘I shouldn’t be feeling this,’ Im wrong to feel this,’ ‘something is wrong with my life if I feel this,’ ‘I must fix…

Can a personality love?

Joy writes to a participant about the fear of love – In a Joyful Loving circle, where we are exploring being and what that means in an area (sex, relationship, love) where our culture is most wounded, most judgemental and mixed up, most permissive (in the incorrect use of the word), misinformed, greedy and licentious,…

right or wrong, let’s meet

Let’s meet beyond any thoughts of what is right or wrong, feeling what is felt, knowing the awe-ful aloneness in it, we choose to connect, to discover what is here, to celebrate being together.   You can find opportunities here  

Wishing you all a heart and soul filled Christmas season and a very happy new year

Dear participants and those who may participate in Secret Garden in future I write in deep gratitude for the love and friendship shared between us and offered to those I write to whom I haven’t yet met. Thank you all for valuing what cannot be measured. It is such a testament to your care and…

A response to ….Am I self-indulgent to want to go to a Secret Garden gathering again?

There are times in life when it is right, natural, appropriate and wonderful for you to focus almost primarily on spiritual ‘growth’, looking more deeply into life that western culture encourages and opening to the possibility of the no-thing and everything of being. Once you taste awakening, though it is clear in that awakeness that there…

Dare you trust the creativity and infinite possibility of the simple?

How would it be to ask yourself ‘what can I do to make my day or week or year simpler?’ How can I rearrange my current life experience so that it brings me more joy and less stress? Have the courage to trust simplicity and let it enrich the joy in your life. Hawaiian Huna…

What has Self – Love got to do with it?

This apparent world which is both real and unreal, both something and nothing, is simply love, aloha, unfolding. So to ‘love oneself’ and to always celebrate the precious life you are, is, in ‘your’ unfolding story, the first massive step towards being. There is no one, there is no separation, all there is is this,…