Posts Categorized: Joyful Loving

Living beyond blame

Do you act, speak, feel as though you are 100% responsible for your life? If so, then you respond authentically and with wholeness, totality in the moment rather than with robotic conditioning. Before taking full responsibility, many people play the role of the victim and blame their circumstances or other people for their circumstances and concerns. Such projections distort…

Awake in Being, the deepest gift of falling in love

Maytime….delicious abundance and vitality abound and Karen asked me in a blog comment to write about falling in love and relationship…... The word ‘relationship’ implies the negotiation between two or more separate identities, two or more different perspectives. Your being in its purity, is not, cannot be, in relationship with another - infinity, being, knows no separation,…

The Power and Beauty of Vulnerability

'You' are the pure being that allows all experience to be, without condition. Vulnerability is a beautiful quality of being. Being is endless, infinite. Vulnerability allows a sharing and celebration of the depths of that ocean of being, the currents of which are generally hidden from view by the defence and role play of the separate self. A human being who…

Loss and Wonder

In beingness, there is no problem. There is no suffering, no conflict, no lack. Only what is arising, full on! In the appearance, when a separate 'you' begins to relate to others and the mind has attached to ideology about how things should be or how people should behave, or has held on to memories, and to unwanted or  wanted…

Love or Attachment?

As you become free-er of limiting conditioning and ideology, as your I is a less fixed identity, so relationships inevitably change. Sometimes those who participate in groups or sessions worry that the increased freedom and letting go, the dissolving of the stories, is also going to undermine the loving connection. But the opposite is true…

What do we do when we feel rejected or a failure?

Joy speaks to a distressed man at the end of a Joyful Loving gathering. He has courageously voiced his pain about rejection by women (encouraged by the men’s circle) but he doesn’t believe his receiving of love in the training will translate to his life outside of it. He feels he can’t relate the same way in his…

Cheltenham talk 1 Intimacy

An invitation to the depths How personality resists & defends against it A meeting of two nobodies There is love or there is fear in embodied experience on the planet Beyond time Intimacy is to not know anything