Loss and Wonder

In beingness, there is no problem. There is no suffering, no conflict, no lack. Only what is arising, full on! In the appearance, when a separate 'you' begins to relate to [...]

Love or Attachment?

As you become free-er of limiting conditioning and ideology, as your I is a less fixed identity, so relationships inevitably change. Sometimes those who participate in groups or sessions worry [...]

Celebrate Yes and No

Allowing your yes and no fully, moment by moment, improves relating & deepens intimacy. https://secretgarden.co.uk/backup/joyful-loving-courses-and-events/

What do we do when we feel rejected or a failure?

Joy speaks to a distressed man at the end of a Joyful Loving gathering. He has courageously voiced his pain about rejection by women (encouraged by the men’s circle) but he […]

Cheltenham talk 2 Boundaries

Intimacy is dangerous Learning to set boundaries How boundary setting can create conflict Unconscious fear of loss Learning to communicate boundaries Looking after what is precious

Cheltenham talk 1 Intimacy

An invitation to the depths How personality resists & defends against it A meeting of two nobodies There is love or there is fear in embodied experience on the planet [...]

What kind of feedback deepens intimacy?

It is a key life skill, essential if we wish for deep intimate connection,  to be able to ask for what we need or would like. Sometimes that involves telling [...]